R. Madhavan Quotes

I had a respected SF writer call me 'girlie' and demand that I get him a coffee, before the panel we were on together.

I do know that people treat me different with blonde hair than they do with red hair.

London cabs always dis me. I purposefully give them a good tip because I'm trying to straighten up the image where they don't want to pick up some shady-looking, bummy kid like myself. I'm trying to teach them that if you pick up the bummy-looking kid, you still get tipped, man. But they still jerk me around.

People notice if you are black. People notice if you are female. We are certainly not either colorblind or gender-blind in this country, so I'm not suggesting that it isn't a factor. But I think in the final analysis, people will take a look at the positions, and they'll take a look at the issues.

I do struggle to identify an occasion when I was held back because I'm a woman... You don't think about it at the time, but looking back at it, of course.

I'm very often referred to as 'Sir' in elevators and such. I think it has to do with being this tall and not wearing much lipstick. I think people just can't imagine I'd be a woman if I look like this.

There's a guy I used to pay to work with me who'd call me 'kiddo.' I said, 'There's nothing that justifies you expressing that to me, your boss.'

My first day in the police was July 16, 1972. I was the only woman in the IPS. I remember getting a lot of questions. Are you sure you want to do this? Have you thought about your family? Why did you choose to be here? There was a lot of amazement and doubt.

I know people started suspecting whether I was a woman or a man. All the honour I earned - I lost.

I know people aren't sure about men who look like I do. People don't see the beard as a bit of hair. I've been shouted at, called some horrible names, and when I first came to Worcester I noticed people crossing the road to avoid me.

I have to break down the barriers as a female. I have to work 30 times harder just for respect.

If a girl you're on a date with expresses ideals similar to those expressed by social justice bullies, end the date.

I was in high school after 9/11 happened. I didn't get bullied. I didn't get treated differently, but I definitely felt people looked at me differently.

'Separate but unequal' didn't work in respect to race, it doesn't work in respect to gender, and it especially doesn't work when looking at the intersection of race and gender.

Don't attack a girl because you see one photo of her and a guy in public.

I am no longer a scientist as I stopped in 2000. Science was quite a testing place to be as a working-class woman.

I'm not a tart. I feel like I've been treated like one in the past.

For the longest time people were like, 'Oh you play soccer, what else do you do?' Cause they couldn't believe that you could just be women's professional athlete. That's really frustrating because it's almost devaluing your actual skill and ability.

It's interesting to see the more femme that you present yourself, the more people sort of dehumanize you.

When you have a white male making the arguments, they carry more weight... Should they carry more weight? Absolutely not. But do they? Yes.

I've been called Mr. Eddie's brother, but I don't trip on that. Whether you realize it or not, that's a sign of disrespect. If you address me, call me by my name. You can't lower me or make me feel uncomfortable.

I will not put up with bullying and harassment - certainly not after the experiences I've had.

It becomes tricky if you ever try to partition off what might be seen as sexist criticism. To be honest, I just don't engage. The best way I can rebel against those notions is being competent, good at my job.

I walked into an international economics tutorial, and the professor said, 'I don't know how to teach a woman.' I said, 'It's the same as teaching a man.' I just sat down, and he had no choice but to start teaching. When I handed in my first paper, I think that shut him up.

Hopefully I can play a role where I'm not stigmatized to just being a trans woman.