Holly Black Quotes

Each person tells you who they think they are, and who they think you are.

You think you know who you are, and then other people have these other ideas.

The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image.

The social self is simply any idea, or system of ideas, drawn from the communicative life, that the mind cherishes as its own.

Our self image and our habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other.

In a sense who you are has always been a story that you told to yourself. Now your self is a story that you tell to others.

Identity issues are hardwired into the way I think about character - it's almost as if I can't get away from them even if I want to.

I've got an age that I do think of myself.

I think in the whole field of questions about what we take to be "real," one of those questions is about the self. When you talk about the self we're always talking about whether it's a construction and it's a construction we're always in the process of working on. I don't think that work ever ends, to some degree.

A man's name is not like a mantle which merely hangs about him...but a perfectly fitting garment, which, like the skin, has grown over him, at which one cannot rake and scrape without injuring the man himself.

I don't have all that great an awareness of how people see me in life. I don't find myself thinking about it a lot.

I'm not always what I think I am, but I am what I think.

We rigidify our self-image to portray a certain identity to the world, which is one of the key impediments to authenticity.

I guess there are a lot of people out there that think they're supposed to define themselves in isolation, but that's not necessarily the case.

I know who I am. I don't see myself as this whoever they see me as.

We have so many ideas and beliefs about ourselves. We told ourselves story about what we want and who we are, smart or kind. Often these are the unexamined and limited ideas of others that we have internalized and then gone on to life out.

We live our lives based on who we think we are.

In a way, you kind of get caught up in whatever image of yourself you think is out there.

Everything you think about yourself, everything you believe about yourself, is because you learned it.

Identity in the form of continuity of personality is an extremely important characteristic of the individual.

People have different impressions of themselves, and where reality lies is somewhere in between.

I feel like a mirror reflecting back everyone's perception of me.

People define themselves aesthetically at a very young age.

Well, I don't know what image people have of me.

The development of the meaning attaching to the personal self, the conscious being, is the subject matter of the history of psychology.