Anthony de Mello Quotes

Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment.

It is wisdom to know others. It is enlightenment to know oneself.

Knowing others is wisdom; Knowing the self is enlightenment; Mastering others requires force; Mastering the self needs strength.

Intelligent people know others. Enlightened people know themselves.

He whose book of the heart has been opened needs no other books.

Most of your suffering comes from the lack of understanding of yourself and others.

All relationships are your mirrors and all people are your teachers.

He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

If you don't understand yourself you don't understand anybody else.

A degree of self-awareness is extremely valuable... I hope I have that going forward.

Self-awareness is not self-centeredness, and spirituality is not narcissism. 'Know thyself' is not a narcissistic pursuit.

The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world.

Not all those who know their minds know their hearts as well.

Being in relationship with others helps us know ourselves better.

It is very important to have deep friendships of the opposite sex to learn so much about yourself and what you need as a human.

If you can get to know a person, and you can really understand them, it can usually help you better understand yourself and why you believe what you believe.

The true cure for self-righteousness is self-knowledge.

For it is easy to criticize and break down the spirit of others, but to know yourself takes a lifetime.

Always search for your innermost nature in those you are with, as rose oil imbibes from roses.

To understand oneself requires patience, tolerant awareness; the self is a book of many volumes which you cannot read in a day, but when once you begin to read, you must read every word, every sentence, every paragraph for in them are the intimations of the whole. The beginning of it is the ending of it. If you know how to read, supreme wisdom is to be found.

I once read that people who study others are wise but those who study themselves are enlightened.

The most excellent and divine counsel, the best and most profitable advertisement of all others, but the least practised, is to study and learn how to know ourselves. This is the foundation of wisdom and the highway to whatever is good. . . . God, Nature, the wise, the world, preach man, exhort him both by word and deed to the study of himself.

Unless you really understand others, you can hardly attain your own self-understanding.

Relationships are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit's blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit's laboratories in which he brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth.