Deborah Tannen Quotes

The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more of an issue for many women.

Guys are so easygoing and girls are a little harder to please, but that's okay.

There is a fundamental difference between men and women - women need romance, men need intrigue.

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.

Through all the relationship stuff I've gone through in the past few years, I know there are fundamental differences in how men and women view sex and how they view their futures.

What women need to understand is that men don't communicate. It's not intentional or on purpose. We're just not as emotional. You ladies feel like you have to express yourselves.

Women are more likely to have sex and fall in love, which can be tough because that's not the way men work.

I didn't want to get married. What I knew of most men was something I didn't want any part of. I just wanted to work on my career.

Something that always fascinated me was the psychology and the psychology differences between men and women and how we relate to one another.

The difference between men and women seems to be this: I can argue with my promoter downstairs, accuse him of ripping me off, and 20 minutes later we'll be playing golf together. With a lady, the same argument can go on for, like, years.

The man's desire is for the woman; but the woman's desire is rarely other than for the desire of the man.

I think for men and women, there's a different dynamic when it comes to love. Because I feel like a man who falls in love with a woman falls harder than a woman falling for a man. We're not emotionally as accepting as women are.

When a man falls in love, he wants to go to bed. When a woman falls in love, she wants to talk about it.

Woman wants monogamy; Man delights in novelty. Love is woman's moon and sun; Man has other forms of fun. Woman lives but in her lord; Count to ten, and man is bored. With this the gist and sum of it, What earthly good can come of it?

A woman can be anything the man who loves her would have her be.

In nine cases out of ten, a woman had better show more affection than she feels.

And verily, a woman need know but one man well, in order to understand all men; whereas a man may know all women and understand not one of them.

The expectation was I would get married and become a mother and settle down. We didn't have any role models. We saw teachers and doctors and nurses, but I'm not a teacher, and there was no possibility of being a doctor or a nurse. I had to work and find my own way.

Once I married Fernando, I became invisible.

Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a man's last romance.

Relationships between men and women have become much more complicated.

Men are easier to get on with than women. They tend not to make emotional demands on you.

A man's man has no problems with commitment, as long as he's not with a woman who needs to be committed.

Why don't men like to stop and ask directions? This question, which I first addressed in my 1990 book 'You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation', garnered perhaps the most attention of any issue or insight in that book.

Men and women are like cats and dogs. I've learned more about myself from women. My comedy is based on this.