Alain de Botton Quotes

I say I never wanna get married. I feel trapped with the idea of marriage. How can you really be with somebody forever? I'd get bored! As I get older, I don't settle. I'd rather tell somebody 'This is what I want - take it or leave it.'

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

There's a lot of talk about the positive aspects of love. We as a society downplay the danger, the anxiety, and the disappointment. We romanticize romance.

The truth is that I'm more afraid of marriage than of death.

I'm definitely scared by commitment.

Boredom is not a thing. It's not a feeling or a condition. It is the absence of feelings, things and conditions.

Open relationships aren't for me.

Never say never, I find I get claustrophobic in a relationship.

If there's any actor who is saying we are not insecure, they are lying, because this job is an emotional one.

There's just a certain amount of grandeur and total squalor we exist in as songwriters because it's a crazy job for crazy people.

I don't understand why you have to wear a wedding ring to warn people off. You should be able to be faithful to that person without anything on your body to show that you are with someone.

People choose to shut themselves off and build a load of defense mechanisms and not let anybody in because it's easier that way. You don't get hurt, and there's less risk involved if you build this hard shell.

Although I wrote a book about infidelity around the world, I ended up concluding that fidelity is quite a good idea.

If anyone is on my husband's arm, it's going to be me.

The last thing in the world I want to do is marry. I am too selfish, but I won't elaborate on that.

Of course everyone should have the right to get married. But I think people need to remember sometimes that we don't all need to be the same. There's thousands of different types of relationships that people can have, whether it's completely monogamous or it's not monogamous, or they're married, or they're single or whatever it is.

I was always slightly afraid of marriage because I didn't like the idea of being tied down. Even when I met Brian, when I was in my mid-thirties, I didn't actually see it on the cards for us. He was a huge rock star, and our lives were very different.

Women are upset if their partner has an intimate conversation of any kind with someone who isn't them. They consider it a violation, a betrayal. Men should think this way, but they don't.

I think people are afraid of the concept of open relationships. Like, 'I will not accept this.' They don't have to! No one is telling them to. But it might work for other people.

There is such insecurity in loving that we see all the pros and cons and then decide how much we want to invest in relationships.

I don't think I am scared of intimacy, but I am frightened of making a mistake. offering more than I have, or expecting more than you can give. - Matt Sedon

Relationships are kind of like riding a bull. You hang on for dear life and sometimes you get a little buck here and there ... but you get back on.

I've been in true love many times. I just try to avoid it as much as possible. For if there's one thing I know about true love, it is that sooner or later, it results in a hostage situation.

Life is like an elevator, a lot of ups and downs. People pushing your buttons and getting jerked around.

If you love, you will suffer. The only way to protect yourself against suffering is to protect yourself against love - and that is the greatest suffering of all, loneliness.