Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield Quotes

The fool thinks he has won a battle when he bullies with harsh speech, but knowing how to be forbearing alone makes one victorious.

I can tell you this: I'm an extremely passionate individual. I try to be careful how I display it because you never know how people are going to take it.

People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.

Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.

The passions seldom give good advice but to the interested and mercenary. Resentment generally suggests bad measures. Second thoughts and good nature will rarely, very rarely, approve the first hints of anger.

Living without hate for people is almost impossible. There is nothing wrong with fantasizing about revenge. You can have that feeling. You just shouldn't act in it.

I think the only time I show my emotions and anger is on the cricket field; otherwise, I've mellowed down. And with age, I think, with age you always end up mellowing down.

If something happens, you have to realize that you can't just yell at people all the time.

I'm not a screamer. I'm confrontational, but I don't think that translates into anger.

Everybody kind of perceives me as being angry. It's not anger, it's motivation.

I would like to be George Clooney diplomatic. I just don't have the wherewithal yet or the inner serenity.

When I have an argument with someone, even with someone I am not very close with, I can't sleep at night thinking about it. It's terrible. But I still manage speak out frankly because I have also been gifted with the ability to read people. I can sense when they start to get irritated with me, and then, I shift.

I'm too mature to be angry.

I used to say, 'Hey, man, what kind of a stupid question is that?' to a newspaperman asking me heavy things right after a race when I'm still in an emotional state. Now I at least try to answer.

I don't remember threatening anybody, ever. I don't like threats. I don't respond well to them, so I don't give them. But I'm not a doormat. I try to meet the appropriate level of communications.

You find a lot out about people when they're blowing up, as we say, gasping for air, and if they can still hold conversations and be polite.

To be honest, the Nidahas Trophy has taught me too many things. Actually, I learnt to how to stay neutral after that.

Like a cube of ice, anger cannot be eliminated by applying force, only by applying warmth, compassion and kindness.

Arguments cannot be answered with insults. . . . Kindness is strength. . . . Anger blows out the lamp of the mind. In the examination of a great and important question, every one should be serene, slow-pulsed, and calm.

There are times when you get frustrated, but the one thing you always focus on is treating people well. You just cannot storm off and freak out.

A great mind will neither give an affront nor bear it.

If our early lessons of acceptance were as successful as our early lessons of anger how much happier we would all be.

Every wave of passion restrained is a balance in your favor. It is therefore good policy not to return anger for anger, as with all true morality.

There are times when my passion for basketball led me into confrontations that I could have handled a lot better. I've always been too confrontational, especially when I know I'm right.

You'll have to learn to control your emotions. They're new, like achild's now, bursting with passion. Never let them fade, or part of you will die. But they cal also destroy you. Hold them dear, but don't let them take hold of you.