Colum McCann Quotes

People are more afraid to love than they are to kill.

To good and true love fear is forever affixed.

I have been continuously surprised by people who come to me and say they are afraid of love. What is the fear of love? It is because when you really love somebody your ego starts slipping and melting. You cannot love with the ego; the ego becomes a barrier. and when you want to drop the barrier the ego says, 'This is going to be a death. Beware!'

Why is everybody afraid of love?

I’m afraid of love, because it involves things that are beyond our understanding; it sheds such a brilliant light, but the shadow it casts frightens me.

All I know is that I fell in love with you, and I've never been more frightened about anything in my entire life.

Most human beings still cannot trust love.

Those who love to be feared fear to be loved.

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

Sometimes you're afraid to fall in love with a chick, but she sucks you in anyway.

We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.

Romantic love can be terrifying. We experience another human being as enormously important to us. So there is surrender - not a surrender to the other person so much as to our feeling for the other person. What is the obstacle? The possibility of loss.

I suppose I'd always been attracted to commitment-phobes because some part of me felt unlovable. It was a lot easier to fall for a guy who I knew, on some level, wouldn't fall in love with me. There was nothing to risk. The real risk would be to finally be vulnerable to love.

To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.

Sometimes I'm not as open to loving.

I would like to be soft and warm. I would be terrified to be that way. I could be hurt if I were soft and warm. I could be hurt by something other than myself. It is harder to be soft than it is to be hard. I could be hurt by something other than myself.

People have become afraid of love because in love also, death penetrates. If two lovers are sitting side by side in deep love and intimacy, not even talking.... Talking is an escape, an escape from love. When two lovers are talking that simply shows they are avoiding the intimacy. Words in-between give distance - with no words distance disappears, death appears. In silence there is death just lurking around - a beautiful phenomenon. But people are so afraid that they go on talking whether it is needed or not. They go on talking about anything, everything - but they cannot keep silent.

Love is a vulnerable thing. Falling in love is like a great drug. But then to really be known and really let someone else be known is very vulnerable. It's a weird thing.

I don't think I am scared of intimacy, but I am frightened of making a mistake. offering more than I have, or expecting more than you can give. - Matt Sedon

People are afraid of falling in love because they don't want to suffer.

I shudder at the thought of men.... I'm due to fall in love again

What do you fear, most of all? The possibility that love may not be enough.

You aren't afraid of throwing yourself in the path of danger, but you're terrified of letting anyone in.

Britney: My love doesn't scare me. Other people's love scares me.

I think I actually did write about love because I kind of had a fear of it, like we all do, nobody wants to get hurt.