John Grant Quotes

I think all gay men are used to people saying no to them, to people not giving them choices.

I feel like one thing that messed me up was living in a homophobic and transphobic society, and just being the object of mockery and disgust in your average sitcom or movie or person at school.

How often are the perpetrators of hate-crimes discovered to be self-loathing? Valued individuals do not strike out against strangers.

I think the main thing I remembered throughout all of filming it was just that she just was extremely self-destructive. I think everybody can relate to that a little bit. She doesn't like herself.

Being gay and being a woman has one big thing in common, which is that we both become invisible after the age of 42. Who wants a gay 50-year-old? No one, let me tell you.

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender teens are bullied and ostracized in epidemic proportions. It's disgusting, and it must change.

We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict.

I don't think closeted homosexual morticians have the market cornered on self-loathing or sense of shame.

When we cannot be delivered from ourselves, we delight in devouring ourselves.

There was three or four years of my life where I hated myself and you know, would have quite happily ended it.

Homosexuality in Russia is a crime and the punishment is seven years in prison, locked up with the other men. There is a three year waiting list.

As a gay person, my life has been marginalized.

Someone who hates one group will end up hating everyone - and, ultimately, hating himself or herself.

While overeating would be seen by some as an indulgence of self, it is in fact a profound rejection of self. It is a moment of self-betrayal and self-punishment, and anything but a commitment to one's own well-being.

For many gay and bisexual men of color, economic inequalities add to the pernicious effects of oppression and homophobia.

Growing up as a gay boy in West Texas, I definitely felt like a bit of an outcast sometimes - that there was a world that I would never be a part of.

The only real shaming I've ever experienced has been from other gay people when I reveal my politics or my religion.

Something inside of me tells me that being homosexual is probably wrong.

I always think that there's a weight of prejudice from the past that gay people perhaps carry around with them. Even if it doesn't exist so much around them, they still have a feeling of being excluded, and perceived prejudice is almost as unsettling as actual prejudice.

Don't do drugs to be cool, do 'em because you hate yourself.

A foolishness is inflicted with a hatred of itself.

To one's enemies: "I hate myself more than you ever could.

I must say to myself that I ruined myself, and that nobody great or small can be ruined except by his own hand. I am quite ready to say so. ... Terrible as was what the world did to me, what I did to myself was far more terrible still.

Often does hatred hurt itself.

It is not love of self but hatred of self which is at the root of the troubles that afflict our world.