Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

You proceed from a false assumption: I have no ego to bruise.

Men do not like to admit to even momentary imperfection. My husband forgot the code to turn off the alarm. When the police came, he wouldn't admit he'd forgotten the code... he turned himself in.

Self-love for ever creeps out, like a snake, to sting anything which happens to stumble upon it.

This arrogance thing... I've had that my whole life. I flip between, 'Oh really? Oh, thank you. Wow. That's amazing' and, 'Yeah! Of course I am.' They're both varying degrees of a self-defence mechanism. It can be from minute to minute that I change.

Our vanity is hardest to wound precisely when our pride has just been wounded.

I don't like to show my weaknesses.

If you don't like me, there must be something wrong with you.

A fellow who is always declaring he's no fool usually has his suspicions.

I definitely don't think that I'm hot doo-doo. I don't.

I was invincible, at least that's what I wanted you to think, and I wanted me to think it, too.

People who act the most arrogant often are the most insecure, and they just can't even begin to accept the possibility that they might not be as good as they think they are.

Many a man is praised for his reserve and so-called shyness when he is simply too proud to risk making a fool of himself.

When you are not treated seriously, you develop comically. Its sense of oneself is so fractured and fragile that it's like the picked-on kid who has to become funny.

I had a great deal of arrogance and a great deal of bravado, but I think the bravado was brought on by a huge insecurity.

I think it comes from far away inside me, to be strong to survive everything that comes my way. I think, going back to the beginning, feeling like an alien in an English school when I was eight, that set up my pride very early on. I think I'm very defensive, but I'm trying not to be like that anymore.

Because of its phantom nature, and despite elaborate defense mechanisms, the ego is very vulnerable and insecure, and it sees itself as constantly under threat. This, by the way, is the case even if the ego is outwardly very confident.

Art is based on emotion, but being macho is based on ego; the wall protecting that emotion.

I'm too conceited for therapy.

There is nothing so skillful in its own defense as imperious pride.

I'm not selfish at all.

I'm not an idiot.

I don't think I'm a diva.

Why should I? No one would wish to hurt me.

I have got my pride to defend.

It's not like I'm shy or anything. I'm not.