Gary Chapman Quotes

I believe that anybody who gets married should go to a counselor for months before the wedding. I think that's going to save guys a lot of money and the ladies a lot of heartbreak.

Though modern Marriage is a tremendous laboratory, its members are often without preparation for the partnership function. How much agony and remorse and failure could have been avoided if there had been at least some rudimentary learning before they entered the partnership.

Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage.

When David Arquette and I got engaged we started therapy together. I'd heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest, so we decided to work through all that stuff early.

I don't want to make any mistakes. My parents have been married for 40 years. I want to stay married.

You get excited about getting married, aight, but after you're married for awhile, you gotta have a process to make it work, aight.

Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.

We seldom give each other advice-I think that's the success of 25 years of marriage.

Pure love is an incomparable, potent power for good. Righteous love is the foundation of a successful marriage.

It seems to me divorce is so common now. It ought to be more institutionalized. It's like a head-on collision every time. It's supposed to be a surprise but it's commonplace.

One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.

At the top of the list of what makes a successful marriage, is a sense of humor.

the most successful marriages were always based on both partners feeling that they had done rather well for themselves.

Few people who marry plan for their marriages to fail, but neither do they specifically plan for success.

What surprises me in life are not the marriages that fail, but the marriages that succeed.

What I object to is the hyper-fetishized wedding day, the prioritizing of wedding over marriage. I have a real problem with couples spending far more time discussing the seating arrangement or the color of the bridesmaid's gowns than hashing out, for instance, their feelings about how they intend to handle questions of housework, child-rearing, finances and fidelity for the next four or five decades.

Learning to heal ruptures is a key to having a successful relationship. Adam and Eve model that for all of us. In Hollywood love is a choice, and you live happily ever after. In real life love is a series of choices. You make the choice to be with a person over and over again.

I used to say to my dad, 'How did you and Mom stay married for all this time?' and he'd say, 'Two things. Number one: You gotta have the same dreams. One person can't be daydreaming about walking down the street in Paris, the other person want to work in a coal mine. Number two: We never wanted to get divorced at the same time.'

A successful marriage is a decision. You decide whether it's going to work, and then you turn around and you've been married 45 years.

The trouble is people leave too much to luck. They get married and then trust to luck. They should be sure in the first place.

The percentage of couples who stay together after high school is, like, less than five percent, you guys.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

Communication is the key to successful relationships.

I'm not interested in playing the field and all that stuff because frankly I'm not into frivolous relationships. I've got a couple close relationships with friends, a close relationship with my family, and a close relationship with my guitar. I'll know if the right person comes along, and whatever then - cool - but it's not something I'm seeking out at the moment.

Nietzsche had a little one-liner on how to choose a wife. He said, ''Are you willing to have a conversation with this woman for the next forty years?'' That's how to pick a wife.