Paul Bloom Quotes

Love is reaching out to try to get to the other person.

Here's the thing: When you become brilliant at listening, people feel that you care about them. When they feel you care about them, they begin to care about you. And when people care about you, your success becomes a part of how they define their success.

So after being with somebody for any number of days like that, you can't help but feel for them. You can't help them, but you certainly can root for them.

You can relate to somebody's pain and you have compassion, which can lead to intimacy.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

I don't quite know how to put it into words, but I feel for the audience that I have; I know them.

Time, presence and physical attentiveness are our most basic proxies for something ultimately unprovable: that we are understood.

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.

People don’t care what you know until they know that you care.

Everyone wants to share what he or she has learned with someone who really cares.

I have a lot of people in my life, and I think there's something key: the thing that leads to intimacy and relationship and connection is tenderness.

Every time I get off the phone with one of my friends, I tell them I love them.

I often find myself writing about people taking care of each other, or trying to.

There's a power in empathy.

I've found throughout life that people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care.

I think, when you get to know somebody on a personal level were you truly understand what makes them tick, what they play for, things they like to do in their spare time, you're around their families, I think you're kind of able to kind of coexist more when you have a relationship.

It sounds cliche, but communication is the number one way to keep a relationship solid.

Employ empathy.

I'd like people to think of me as someone who cares about them.

And I think that's what our world is desperately in need of - lovers, people who are building deep, genuine relationships with fellow strugglers along the way, and who actually know the faces of the people behind the issues they are concerned about.

I think being compassionate of each other's lives and issues is nonnegotiable when it comes to friendships. We're all going through different stages and issues, and as I get older, I'm trying to lean into that.

You were supposed to empathize with your friend's problem, but they were, after all, your friend's problems.

The one thing I think you must do is, as painful as it is as a parent, is listen.

Romance is sort of an island right next to care. When you care about someone and you listen to them and you hear them and you can feel them and you know just what's right, and generally it's something that will be very unimpressive to a room of strangers.

I really like feeling connected to people and feeling like I have a good, solid sense of empathy.