Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

The footsteps a child follows are most likely to be the ones his parents thought they covered up.

It's easy to manipulate your children when they're absolutely sure you're stupid.

Whatever the parents are doing, the kids will follow suit.

Parents who indulge themselves 'in moderation' may have children who indulge themselves to excess.

As the fathers live, so the children play.

If thou desire to see thy child virtuous, let him not see his father's vices: thou canst not rebuke that in them, that they behold practised in thee; till reason be ripe, examples direct more than precepts: such as thy behaviour is before thy children's faces, such commonly is theirs behind their parents' backs.

Kids don’t do what their parents say-they do what they see their parents do. So who was to blame here?

Children are sensitive and receptive to the thoughts of others about them, and often outpicture the fears of their parents.

Children will imitate their fathers in their vices, seldom in their repentance.

A kid never listens to what his parents tell him to do. The parents actually act as an example of what their kids themselves do.

Children are natural mimics who act like their parents despite every effort to teach them good manners.

A child identifies his parents with God, whether or not the adults want that role. Most children 'see' God the way they perceive their earthly fathers.

Always obey your parents - when they are present.

You would think, wouldn’t you, that if you were the child of a happy marriage, then you ought to have a better than average marriage yourself – either through some genetic inheritance or because you’d learnt from example? But it doesn’t seem to work like that. So perhaps you need the opposite example – to see mistakes in order not to make them yourself. Except this would mean that the best way for parents to ensure their children have happy marriages would be to have unhappy ones themselves. So what’s the answer?

Parents appreciate the child who agrees; they condemn the child who disagrees.

At times our children may not be in possession of a good spirit; but if the parent continues to possess the good Spirit, the children will have the bad spirit but a short time.

Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than the parent.

A parent who has never apologized to his children is a monster. If he's always apologizing, his children are monsters.

Thus parents, by humouring and cockering them when little, corrupt the principles of nature in their children, and wonder afterwards to taste the bitter waters, when they themselves have poison'd the fountain.

Liberal Doctrine: it is not children who misbehave, but parents.

the temperaments of children are often as oddly unsuited to parents as if capricious fairies had been filling cradles with changelings.

If parents had children who were good sleepers, they assumed this was due to their good parenting, not good luck.

Children need parents who will let them grow up to be themselves, but parents often have personal agendas they try to impose on their children.

How can children credit the assertions of parents, which their own eyes show them to be false? Few parents act in such a manner as much to enforce their maxims by the credit of their lives

The children of childish parents age quickly.