Daniel Goleman Quotes

Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.

We don't teach kids how to feel, we don't give them the words to go by.

Children with Hyacinth's temperament don't know better as they grow older; they merely know more.

Emotional 'literacy' implies an expanded responsibility for schools in helping to socialize children. This daunting task requires two major changes: that teachers go beyond their traditional mission and that people in the community become more involved with schools as both active participants in children's learning and as individual mentors.

I enjoy working with people. I understand that as a necessity. And clearly that's something that develops as you get older. And I've grown into that.

In elementary school, we should teach nonviolent conflict resolution and healthy communication skills, which will help children cope with issues like rejection and sexuality later in life.

A huge part of what a kid learns when they're growing up is social and emotional development. As adults, we take it for granted that other people have emotions that are different from ours, and we can identify what they are, but those are skills that children have to learn.

Teach your kids emotional intelligence. Help them become more evolved than you are. Explain that, for instance, not everyone will like them.

It's funny that through learning how to physically fight, you also learn how to navigate really complicated and hard conversations with people.

I think kids in France, and certainly in my household, don't necessarily stop interrupting when you tell them, but they gradually become more aware of other people, and that means that you can have the expectation of finishing a conversation.

I send my kids to school not only to learn how to read and write and do math, but also to develop socially.

In order to be able to cooperate with a child, you have to come down to below their level in order to communicate with them. Actors are also like children.

Your ability to get along well with others will determine your happiness and success as much as any other factor.

School doesn't really teach you how to interact with people properly, you learn that outside of school.

Your people smarts will prove ten times more valuable than all the book smarts you can't get.

By learning to yield to the loving authority of his parents, a child learns to submit to other forms of authority which will confront him later in his life — his teachers, school principal, police, neighbors and employers.

A major reason capable people fail to advance is that they don't work well with their colleagues.

Children are capable of such open rudeness.

You want to raise your child in such a way that you don't have to control him, so that he will be in full possession of himself at all times. Upon that depends his good behavior, his health, his sanity.

The better you are at communicating, negotiating, and handling your fear of rejection, the easier life is.

Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation of good relationships with others.

What is the most important thing one learns in school? Self-esteem, support, and friendship.

You don't know how to talk to people you don't like. Don't love, really. You can't live in the world with such strong likes and dislikes.

School is established, not in order that it should be convenient for the children to study, but that teachers should be able to teach in comfort. The children's conversations, motion, merriment are not convenient for the teacher, and so in the schools, which are built on the plan of prisons, are prohibited.

As a quick aside, let me observe that in moments of high emotion....if the next thing you're going to say makes you feel better, then it's probably the wrong thing to say. This is one of the finer maxims that I've discovered in life. And you can have it, since it's been of no use to me.