Rachel Simmons Quotes

The idea that you can get everything you want in one person is destructive, and maybe when you accept that the number is closer to 50 or 60 or 70 percent, that's when you can start to make some progress in choosing the right person.

Whenever I'm talking about relationships, it's always at least three things. It's my relationship with myself, my relationship with God or an idea, and then usually somebody, a real person. I try to operate on all three levels at the same time, and it's difficult, but I never want to have a break-up song or something like that.

Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that.

People are not perfect... very often the relationships that are strongest are those where people have worked through big crises, but they've had to work through them. So the challenge to us is to work through that.

I don't know that I appreciate things more because of how I grew up, but I am very realistic with what I expect out of people and what they expect out of me.

When you're in a relationship you want it to work. My parents did, I did. But we are not taught how to make it work.

Mixed messages are just part and parcel of the romantic terrain, and rather than berate yourself for any crossed wires, you'd do better to work on your future resilience.

I think it's wonderful when a love story begins with a great deal of romance and affection, passion and excitement, that's how it should be. But I don't necessarily know that it's the wisest thing in the world to expect that it ends there, or that it should, 30 years down the road, still look as it did on the night of your first kiss.

If we are happy within ourselves, we don't accept or demand that our partner should fulfill every need. We need to be comfortable with our own company.

The key is allowing your partner to be who they are and not having expectations that really have nothing to do with the person you married.

I try to recognize that there is no such thing as having it all - and it's impossible to be perfect. You just have to let certain things go.

I talk to my friends and, you know, they all seem to get relationships that aren't right. You kind of want someone who is not at your beck and call but loves the idea of being in a relationship and what that entails.

I suppose if I did get into a situation with a friend where we both liked the same girl, I like to think we'd sit down maturely and decide who was going to get in there, and then the other would stand aside.

We're quite volatile as individuals, but that doesn't work exponentially when we are together. Relationships are about eating humble pie.

I work very hard at relationships. I've done the thing of being home. I worked all day and came home and did all the stuff at home that a woman is supposed to do, the cooking and the entertaining. I'm a perfectionist, and, besides, I loved all those things.

It's very hard to get the dynamics where two people can stimulate each other and be happy.

There are always women who will take men on their own terms. If I were a man I wouldn't bother to change while there are women like that around.

If you cannot mould yourself entirely as you would wish, how can you expect other people to be entirely to your liking?

There's not a human being alive I won't talk to. There's a quite simple rule. If you like somebody more than you dislike them you can have a relationship. Once you accept you like 75 per cent but 25 per cent you find irritating for this or that reason, you just have to ignore that 25 per cent.

Back then I didn't think a woman like that, or a relationship like that, could exist with complete freedom and no jealousy or possessiveness. I thought it sounded too good to be true and I was certainly convinced it wasn't the life for me!

It takes a big man and a big woman to actually say, like, 'Okay, I'm in love with you, but I can't keep forcing it - it's only pushing us apart'.

Asking someone to be with us turns out to be an impossibly demanding and therefore pretty mean thing to suggest to anyone we would really want the best for.

The best relationship is one that does not foster too much independence nor too much dependence, but exists in the healthy interdependence zone.

I just want to live in a world where I can tell a guy, 'This is the deal: I really want this. I really want you. But it's also not that deep.'

Guys are much happier when someone puts a limit on their behavior and causes them to make a real connection with another person.