Carol S. Dweck Quotes

One important lesson is this: It is okay to try and fail at something, but it isn't okay to not try. Parents need to encourage their kids, and it all starts in the home.

As a parent, if give yourself what you need, your children will watch you doing that and will give themselves what they need.

I think sometimes parents and teachers fail to stretch kids. My mother had a very good sense of how to stretch me just slightly outside my comfort zone.

My husband and I believe that if you treat a child well and nurture his talent and physical ability, in a healthy environment, the child will succeed no matter what.

Many people think that discipline is the essence of parenting. But that isn't parenting. Parenting is not telling your child what to do when he or she misbehaves. Parenting is providing the conditions in which a child can realize his or her full human potential.

The desire for self-improvement is vital. There is no point in pushing children; they need to be the ones who want to learn new skills.

For decades, parents were told by so-called parenting 'experts' that offspring would be best raised on the belief each is special and entitled to all life has to offer.

Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.

The essence of parenthood is to make children think that they are the most handsome, intelligent, brilliant person in the world.

I believe in allowing your child to be who they want to be - as long as they want to be something great.

When Kate was born, she was born into a world of joy and happiness and confidence. The difference between the children is night and day. She's happy, she's thriving, she's full of self-confidence. I tell her she's beautiful every day before I send her off to school.

Every child should have a chance to feel special.

We're finding that many parents endorse a growth mindset, but they still respond to their children's errors, setbacks or failures as though they're damaging and harmful. If they show anxiety or overconcern, those kids are going toward a more fixed mindset.

Every child has potential. Every child can succeed. No child should be left out or left behind.

I'm doing my best to mindfully raise my son to feel safe and encouraged to express himself.

If we spent as much time lifting our children as we do criticizing them, how effectively we could help them to see themselves in a more positive light!

I think the idea of participation trophies has gotta be a really, really great thing. Kids are under enough pressure as it is without encouraging them to be the best too early.

It can be more productive to help people learn to be 'right' than prove they were 'wrong.'

A four-year-old should have no self-esteem, and for good reason. What could he have possibly accomplished in his life to justify esteeming oneself so highly?

I embrace who I am. I just want my child to do the same thing.

Our message to parents is to focus on the process the child engages in, such as trying hard or focusing on the task - what specific things they're doing rather than, 'You're so smart. You're so good at this.' Although it's never too late to change, what you do early matters.

Confidence was the backbone of my upbringing. I was an only child, so I was spoilt, loved, and given an enormous amount of confidence by my parents.

In fact, I often accept criticism because I feel it helps me to get better and get stronger. And I hardly ever remember the compliments.

If more students use self-compassion to reframe their failures, they may discover more nourishing sources of motivation and healthier strategies to pursue their goals.

I got lucky with my parents. They were unfailingly loving and supportive, which gave me confidence about my place in the world.