Mercedes Lackey Quotes

My sons are a hell of a lot easier to get through to than my daughter is. She seems to have my number. She can just run through the buttons.

Parents know how to push your buttons because, hey, they sewed them on.

Families are the deepest, most screwed up relationships that we have.

It's easy to manipulate your children when they're absolutely sure you're stupid.

They say our mothers really know how to push our buttons - because they installed them

I am the drying meadow; you the unspoken apology; he is the fluctuating distance between mother and son; she is the first gesture that creates a quiet that is full enough to make the baby sleep. My genes, my love, are rubber bands and rope; make yourself a structure you can live inside. Amen.

Relations between parents and children and siblings and mates. This is not external. We can't separate them.

A Jewish man with his parents alive is half the time a helpless infant!

For me, as much about being a parent as it is about being a child.

We are all, I suppose, beholden to our parents - the question is, how much?

Your folks are god, you love them and you want to make them happy but you still want to make up your own rules.

It is not flesh and blood, but heart which makes us fathers and sons.

My Open Hearts Family celebrates not only the traditional family but also extended families that we create from the people we open our hearts to as we journey through life.

For in those tacit understandings which maintain the bond of family union, the mother is really the mistress of her daughter only upon the condition of continually presenting herself to her as a model of wisdom and type of perfection.

Your parents are your projection-nothing more.

When you know your mom and dad are doing things that are not idyllic, as far as your desire to defer to a parental ideal, you start to see your parents as peers, perhaps, and that's not the healthiest thing at that early an age.

We are always children to our mothers.

Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.

Before we can leave our parents, they stuff our heads like the suitcases which they jam-pack with homemade underwear.

This tug-of-war often obscures what's also happening between us. I am your mother, the first mile of your road. Me and all my obvious and hidden limitations. That means that in addition to possibly wrecking you, I have the chance to give to you what was given to me: a decent childhood, more good memories than bad, some values, a sense of tribe, a run at happiness. You can't imagine how seriously I take that - even as I fail you. Mothering you is the first thing of consequence that I have ever done.

Perhaps one feels more pain when parents are there. It's like when you're hungry, you know, it's worse to get a symbol of a cheeseburger than no cheeseburger at all. It doesn't do you any good, you know.

The mealy look of men today is the result of momism and so is the pinched and baffled fury in the eyes of womankind.

Honestly, I believe that the mother-daughter relationship is magical, complex, potentially dangerous, profoundly powerful, and deeply transformative. To put it simply, all of us have this relationship, and in a very real way, "none of us comes out alive." We are all formed first as daughters and then tested as mothers. There's nothing like motherhood to make us reassess how we were as daughters.

Our children are extensions of ourselves in ways our parents are not, nor our brothers and sisters, nor our spouses.

We live inside our parents' backstory.