Carol S. Dweck Quotes

If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.

The desire for self-improvement is vital. There is no point in pushing children; they need to be the ones who want to learn new skills.

The wrong kind of praise creates self-defeating behavior. The right kind motivates students to learn.

You should encourage a child to show off. You can say to a child, 'Stop being rude,' 'Stop shouting,' 'Stop jumping around on the furniture.' But 'Stop showing off'? That's awful.

Give your kid some credit for being smart - just because they read about something doesn't mean they will do it.

The mindset ideas were developed as a counter to the self-esteem movement of blanketing everyone with praise, whether deserved or not.

We're finding that many parents endorse a growth mindset, but they still respond to their children's errors, setbacks or failures as though they're damaging and harmful. If they show anxiety or overconcern, those kids are going toward a more fixed mindset.

You don't need to be criticised to play well or things like that.

I think it's good for parents to be supportive, to motivate, and to somewhat nudge their kids because the majority of kids will want to quit something when it gets hard - that's just their nature. Children will normally take the easier road.

Praise your children more than you correct them. Praise them for even their smallest achievement.

I think sometimes parents and teachers fail to stretch kids. My mother had a very good sense of how to stretch me just slightly outside my comfort zone.

As a father, my first priority is to help my sons set and attain personal goals so they will develop self-confidence and individual strength. Engaging in regular fitness activities with my children helps me fulfill those responsibilities.

Many people think that discipline is the essence of parenting. But that isn't parenting. Parenting is not telling your child what to do when he or she misbehaves. Parenting is providing the conditions in which a child can realize his or her full human potential.

Children need models rather than critics.

If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings.

Remember that mindsets can not be changed through force and coercion. No idea can ever be forcibly thrust upon any one.

I think someone should explain to the child that it's OK to make mistakes. That's how we learn. When we compete, we make mistakes.

Words, especially when yelled in anger, can be very damaging to a child's self-confidence. The child probably already feels bad enough just from seeing the consequences of his or her behavior. Our sons and daughters don't need more guilt and self-doubt heaped upon their already wounded egos.

Every child is a greedy child, I think. I mean, it's healthy to be a greedy child.

Some people are just self-motivated - my husband was. I also believe there are many children for whom parental involvement is key.

Children love and want to be loved and they very much prefer the joy of accomplishment to the triumph of hateful failure. Do not mistake a child for his symptom.

My kids have a competitive drive I never had growing up.

It is the parent's job to see how their child learns and to make sure that the children's self confidence is buoyed at all times, or they will plummet like a stone.

I think that giving mindless praise is ridiculous. But I understand why parents do it. They want their kids to feel good about themselves. But parents are never going to teach their children true, positive self esteem by praising everything they do.

Children have more need of models than of critics.