Pema Chodron Quotes

My job is to have empathy and curiosity for things that I've never done. Also, I'm a person whom people talk to.

Over the years, I just started paying a lot more attention not to whether I was right or wrong, but just to how I make people feel.

Well, I think part of my gift, or if I have one, is that I love listening.

When I was young I used to listen to other people and to try and understand what they thought and where they were coming from. I listened and didn't speak.

A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.

I'm very human.

Listen with your eyes for feelings.

We must put ourselves in the place of those who are to hear us

The idea of faking empathy to take a step forward to understanding - it's a really powerful idea.

In order to practice dialogue, you need to be able to set aside your assumptions and try to listen more than you want to talk. It's not always politically correct to be able to do that, but it can give you a better sense of the reality.

People treat serious subjects so seriously, which is so obvious a way of dealing with them. I'm always thinking that the best way of dealing with them is to show people as human beings.

I'm very big on feeling.

I respect anybody that is very in tune with their feelings.

The heart communes best when it does not try to speak.

Learn to breathe, learn to speak, but first... learn to feel.

Listening is where love begins: listening to ourselves and then to our neighbors.

I want to write about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all - which is so important, too - to those we do not love. But we should. Because listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force...When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life.

Always keep your ego in check and not be afraid to listen. Listening is a great art form.

To listen with empathy is the most important human skill.

When you walk into those situations that have a lot of conflict in them, the first thing to do is to be present enough to allow the other person to speak first. You're not giving power away; you're actually allowing them to feel seen and understood.

I always call myself an emotionalist. I feel.

I approach these people from a standpoint of love. How were they loved? How do they love? What's going on in their heart? There's that that I think about with every role.

The more you can be self-aware and honest about yourself, the more you can cultivate that in other people.

I learned the most important thing is to put yourself in the shoes of the players.

You want to feel, 'I know that character.'