Andrew Solomon Quotes

I think being a mom changed me, and now it's not just about what I want to do and what's sort of interesting, but what I absolutely have to do.

Before children, it's kind of easy to be solipsistic - you and your wife are in this hermetic little thing, and your own desires, wants, needs, tastes dictate your choices. Then, suddenly, all of that's gone.

Children sweeten labours, but they make misfortunes more bitter.

My sons are precious to me and I have tried incredibly hard to strike the right balance between work and home life while being acutely aware that I haven't always got it right.

I can't selfishly take journeys anymore because I have to take a little boy along with me.

When somebody's calling you 'Mommy,' it's a wonderful thing. But also to have that responsibility and to know that you and your partner have this little thing that's totally relying on you - and it made me, I suppose, less selfish. Not that I was mega-selfish to start with, but it's lovely having that responsibility. It's scary.

Marriage is a school itself. Also, having children. Becoming a father changed my whole life. It taught me as if by revelation.

If you think marriage is gonna be easy, don't do it because when there are children involved, you screw up the rest of society.

No matter what, if you're a parent, you have to make sacrifices.

I've made decisions along the way so I would be there for my kids, and it's kept me from going places I would have gone.

I've taken blame about being a bad father - if being a bad father is working your butt off trying to create a career at one time.

My mom was a single mom, and she had enough on her plate. I knew when I was doing something I wasn't supposed to, and I tried to keep her from finding out about it. I did a pretty good job of that.

People will say that it's some kind of evasion, but I would never want to have a kid for me. I'd want to have the child for the child's sake, if that makes sense.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person.

There's something honorable about holding out for love and not breaking up for the sake of the baby. I see people get divorced, and there is a part of me that thinks, I wonder how hard they tried?

When you become a parent, it blows you open in ways that you never thought possible in terms of a level of love that I know I never thought I could possibly have.

It's much easier to play supporting roles because that's what I do in my life: I support my son.

Kids are a huge sacrifice; they change everything - but I'm ready to work for things of greater importance than going out to meet someone for dinner at 10 o'clock at night.

I think that public service is tough on a family - no ifs, ands, buts about it. I have my own personal wishes, but they're not always front and center.

To have kids and not be there every night is tough.

I love watching my brothers raise their kids and not have to do it for myself and have the responsibility.

My father instilled in me to take care of my family. Show up even when you don't want to show up.

My first priority is my children. If at any moment I put aside something that I want to do to be a better parent than that is more than okay for me.

There is no greater privilege in living than bringing a tiny new human being into the world and then trying to raise him or her properly during the next eighteen years. Doing that job right requires all the intelligence, wisdom, and determination you will be able to muster from day to day.

You are a person of the greatest importance when you are a mother of a family. Just do your job right and your kids will love you.