Mary, Queen of Scots Quotes

The person who betrayed you is sunning themselves on a beach in Hawaii and you're knotted up in hatred. Who is suffering?

When we have painful memories from hurting experiences, we may feel justified in holding on to the resentment. But resentment is corrosive. It doesn't affect the person we feel anger toward, it destroys the host.

Vengeance is having a videotape planted in your soul that cannot be turned off. It plays the painful scene over and over again inside your mind...And each time it plays you feel the clap of pain again...Forgiving turns off the videotape of pained memory Forgiving sets you free.

We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die-for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. [forgiveness]

I mean, who wants to live waking up... at least I don't want to live waking up everyday about revenge.

There is no ghost so difficult to lay as the ghost of an injury.

Some people would rather dig fresh graves than heal old wounds.

What was the point of being able to forgive, when deep down, you both had to admit you'd never forget?

Women and elephants never forget an injury.

The word resentment means to re-feel...to feel again. Someone wrongs or wounds you; in resenting it, you re-feel the injury. And you re-hurt yourself. The Hebrew Talmud says that a person who bears a grudge is "Like one who, having cut one hand while handling a knife, avenges himself by stabbing the other hand."

Nothing may help or heal While Amor incensed remembers wrong.

The worst part of all is that, without forgiveness, bitterness is all that is left

We can look at the pain in our lives. We can look at the way we have been mistreated, and we can have an attitude of, I will never amount to anything. I have been wrong about people all my life. I am going to pay somebody back for this.

I can forgive, I just can't forget.

You cannot get ahead while you are getting even.

He that studieth revenge keepeth his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.

I will always forgive but I will never forget.

I struggle with insecurities. I struggle with forgiveness. I struggle with letting someone go that did me dirty without vengeance, which is an evil thing.

In fact, not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.

Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back.

When the body escaped mutilation, seldom did the heart go to the grave unscarred.

When we forgive someone, we do not forget the hurtful act, as if forgetting came along with the forgiveness package, the way strings come with a violin. Begin with the basics. If you forget, you will not forgive at all. You can never forgive people for things you have forgotten about. You need to forgive precisely because you have not forgotten what someone did; your memory keeps the pain alive long after the hurt has stopped. Remembering is the storage of pain. It is why you need to be healed in the first place.

And what if I don't want forgiveness?

They hurt you. You hurt 'em back. Or maybe it is the other way around. Whatever. Someday you might find a way to forgive each other. But it won't be like it used to 'cause that pain never really goes away.

Men never forgive those in whom there is nothing to pardon.