Hari Nef Quotes

If I want someone to recognize the gender identity I feel, I'd have to ask for that. I can't assume people will know how I'd like to be treated on their own.

I consider myself true, which, I know, some people look at as radical, but I enjoy the normalcies of life. I'm not out there trying to transform things, but somehow, by being easy to talk to, and easy to look at, and on a mainstream TV show, I think that I'm helping the public's opinions about transgendered people to change, slowly.

I grew up in a commune where no one considered me female, particularly.

I want parents out there to know that it's totally natural for kids to make believe and play games. It does not mean your child is going to be transgendered. And even if it were true, why is it such a horrible thing?

When I talk about intersex, people ask me, 'But what about the locker room?' Yes, what about the locker room? If so many people feel trepidation around it, why don't we fix the locker room? There are ways to signal to children that they are not the problem, and normalization technologies are not the way.

I wrote about ladies who had come through the studio. I get asked, 'Is it a choice to gender the music or put pronouns in?' and for me, it just wasn't a choice.

What's infuriating is when cis people think celebrating me is celebrating transness.

I love when an outfit embodies the fluidity of my gender - it makes me feel the most confident and grounded, especially when attending fashion shows, which can be extremely overwhelming.

I'm non-binary, but I don't really talk about it that much.

I think, for all trans people, it's not our only defining feature, but it is a defining feature.

When I was growing up, I didn't know of anybody who was trans. There was always, like, this shame, anxiety thing around all of that, even if I wasn't actively expressing it.

Nonbinary, gender-nonconforming, and trans people have always been around, just as long as any other type of person.

If someone says 'she' or 'he,' and it's unintentional, I can tell if it's coming from a place of love. It's only when someone misgenders me on purpose that it becomes hurtful.

As someone who is non-binary gender identifying, I feel a particular responsibility to portray members of my community on stage and on screen, not only as fully fleshed-out characters who are integral to the plot, but as characters whose gender identity is just one of many parts that make up the whole person.

Transgender doesn't need to imply loud.

There are so few books for little kids that actually mention the word transgender and explain what it is in simple terms.

When you see white, cisgendered, heterosexual men having conversations about gender identity where they go, 'Oh, those are your pronouns? OK, great. Let's get back to work,' it allows other people to say, 'Maybe if they can do it, I can do it.'

Trans people are not a monolith.

If someone's OK with being the 'transgender girl,' that's fine, but that's not me.

I spent so many years not understanding my own gender identity, not having the language to talk about it, and not feeling safe in many environments to talk about it.

It's good to have a free space to laugh and cry and get angry about gender and sexuality. That's one of the things I am the most thankful for from my friends and my family. They've given me the place to freely have gender be a part of our discourse.

I've always been transgender, and I always will be. Having said that, my spirit is feminine. If you had to divide humanity into two groups, I would sit with the women.

Honestly, I like everything, boyish girls, girlish boys, the heavy and the skinny.

There is a certain androgyny to my appeal.

People who don't have gender dysphoria aren't going to catch it by watching me dance on television.