Andrew Cohen Quotes

I think a man is a man, and a man has a hairy chest, so let that be!

You would never say to a man, 'do you like playing strong men?' You just wouldn't say that.

Men were only made into 'men' with great difficulty even in primitive society: the male is not naturally 'a man' any more than the woman. He has to be propped up into that position with some ingenuity, and is always likely to collapse.

Not only is it harder to be a man, it is also harder to become one.

When I'm talking to groups that are all men, we talk about how the masculine role limits them. They often want to talk about how they missed having real fathers, real loving, present fathers, because of the way that they tried to fit the picture of masculinity.

I was never in an awkward position where I had to curb my manhood.

A guy should be a guy. You don't want him to be too... shiny.

I'm not macho, I'm not a Mel Gibson sort of person.

There are alternate definitions of manhood in the West.

A lot of women - not all of them, a lot of them - feel insecure about men being men.

It's upsetting to be a man in our society.

There aren't a whole lot of people in culture that are unapologetically masculine.

When you're a man you try and be macho.

Manhood coerced into sensitivity is no manhood at all.

Men weren't really the enemy - they were fellow victims suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate when there were no bears to kill.

The tragedy of machismo is that a man is never quite man enough.

I don't think most men do hate women at all - I think most men are trying their best and facing a culturation into masculine behaviour that forces them to deny their own humanity and to exaggerate distance from the world of women.

If you're not the guy who is going to puff your chest out like a rooster and go fight somebody, our society discards you.

Why should men be constrained by antiquated stereotypes of masculinity? What does it even mean to 'Be a Real Man' anymore? Shouldn't we all be celebrating a wide range of definitions of manhood?

I think we still live in this era of hyper-masculinity.

In thinking about male identities, I'm struck by the inadequacy of the terms we use. The notion that men should be distant, domineering and self-seeking is often described as toxic masculinity, but this serves only to alienate those who might need most help.

We can keep whatever we like about manhood but adjust the parts of the definition that are keeping men back.

The male has been persuaded to assume a certain onerous and disagreeable role with the promise of rewards -- material and psychological. Women may in the first place even have put it into his head. BE A MAN! may have been, metaphorically, what Eve uttered at the critical moment in the garden of Eden.

Masculinity is a terrible problem, as we construe it and shape it.

I don't think men were meant to be interviewed.