Arthur Helps Quotes

It s easier to impress someone than to give them pleasure.

The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.

The beauty of social awareness is that a few simple adjustments to what you say can vastly improve your relationships with other people.

I'm engaged: I'm interested in other people. I think that's just as important as knowing how to do the job.

Whatever you think about his intelligence, what's unquestionable is that Reagan had extraordinary emotional intelligence. He could sense the temperature of a room, and tell them a story and make them feel good. And that's more fun, right? It's more fun to feel good than feel bad. That's part of our human state.

Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.

I think that people who are famous tend to be underdeveloped in their humanity skills.

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.

The silliest woman can manage a clever man; but it needs a very clever woman to manage a fool.

I've always wanted... I wanted to give people joy.

I have to be socially aware; I feel like that's my job.

Experience helps you read certain situations better and make less mistakes in terms of behavior.

Sensitivity doesn't necessarily make you easy to get on with.

Friends are helpful not only because they will listen to us, but because they will laugh at us; Through them we learn a little objectivity, a little modesty, a little courtesy; We learn the rules of life and become better players of the game

If you can't see someone's got a game with great personality, you shouldn't be out there looking.

There's a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need," Morrie said. "You need food, you want a chocolate sundae. You have to be honest with yourself. You don't need the latest sports car, you don't need the biggest house. The truth is, you don't get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives you satisfaction?...Offering others what you have to give...I don't mean money, Mitch. I mean your time. Your concern. Your storytelling. It's not so hard.

We have to get good at being with ourselves before we can hope to be good at being in relationships with others.

Your people smarts will prove ten times more valuable than all the book smarts you can't get.

If I do have some success, I'd like to enjoy it, for heaven's sake! What is the point of having it otherwise?

I never understood where the satisfaction is when you're missing the pleasure of conquest.

A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.

Every want that stimulates the breast becomes a source of pleasure when redressed.

Life hinges on many factors we cannot control. Two of the most important factors, we can control. We can manage our relationships-and what is life but a series of relationships?-and we can correct our mistakes, here on earth within our life span.

I think empathy is really important for pleasure.