Gary Chapman Quotes

Love is not obedience, conformity, or submission. It is a counterfeit love that is contingent upon authority, punishment, or reward. True love is respect and admiration, compassion and kindness, freely given by a healthy, unafraid human being.

Love is all, it gives all, and it takes all.

Being in love is all about the ability to give rather than take. It is not easy, but if you can accept this, then you will experience love.

Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.

Love is the child of freedom, never that of domination.

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

Love can make a great celebration out of your life - but only love, not lust, not ego, not possessiveness, not jealousy, not dependence.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love.

Love makes requests, not demands.

Freedom and love go together. Love is not a reaction. If I love you because you love me, that is mere trade, a thing to be bought in the market; it is not love. To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something- and it is only such love that can know freedom.

If you accept such love with purity and humility, you will understand that Love is neither giving nor receiving -it is participating.

The gift of love is the gift of the power and capacity to love, and therefore, to give love with full effect is also to receive it. So love can only be kept by being given away, and it can only be given perfectly when it is also received.

Love can never make you weak, and love is not restricted to opposite sex. I love my parents, I love my animals, and I love my profession.

Love possesses not nor will it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love.

The only way to get love is to be lovable. It's very irritating if you have a lot of money. You'd like to think you could write a check: 'I'll buy a million dollars' worth of love.' But it doesn't work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.

Love is when each person is more concerned for the other than for one's self.

There is more pleasure in loving than in being beloved.

Genuine and true love is so rare that when you encounter it in any form, it's a wonderful thing, to be utterly cherished in whatever form it takes.

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

Pure love is a willingness to give without a thought of receiving anything in return.

If my love is without sacrifice, it is selfish. Such a love is barter, for there is exchange of love and devotion in return for something. It is conditional love.

I have rules for a lot of areas of my life. Love is not going to be one of them.

Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law.

For what the lover would, that would the beloved; what she would ask of him that should he go before to grant. Without accord such as this, love is but a bond and a constraint.

Love is... never asking for more than you are prepared to give.