Candis Cayne Quotes

Some people say I appeared on the Phil Donahue show to tell 'my' sex change story but I've never appeared on his show for any reason... not even as a member of the studio audience.

When I was very young, I wanted to be a girl. I was jealous that girls got to be princesses and wear skirts. It tormented me. When I was 6, I even heard that you could change your sex, and I was very intrigued until the moment I realized that if I changed into a girl, I would be an ugly girl, and this is the last thing I wanted to be.

For my entire life, I've wrestled with my gender identity.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a boy. I really had gender issues.

I remember, as a child, lying in my bed at night praying that I would wake up the next day and be a girl, to be my authentic self, and to just have my family be proud of me. I remember looking into the mirror struggling to say just two words, 'I'm transgender.'

If the standard transsexual person wants to be regarded as he or she, my sense is I'll address you according to the part that you appear to be playing.

Me feeling ambiguous about my gender identity has been a lifelong feeling, certainly.

For me, having a gender identity that was different from my sex assigned at birth and that wasn't seen by society felt like a constant feeling of homesickness - that unwavering ache in the pit of my stomach.

Transsexualism is far less common than homosexuality, and the research is in its infancy. Scattered studies have looked at brain activity, finger size, familial recurrence, and birth order.

For all intents and purposes, I'm a woman.

Also, I had read a book called She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders, written by a professor who had gone through transgender surgery, but it took this person well into his thirties to come to terms with the absolute necessity of having to do it.

When I was really little, it was very clear to me that I felt like a boy, and my friends were all boys.

I always knew I was a man, always felt that I was a man, always wanted to be a man.

I thought, transgender people are much worse off than I am. That's why they're willing to risk everything to be who they are. But the older I got, the harder it got to stay in my body.

Number one, I don't understand a transgender. I don't understand. Is it a guy dressed up like a girl, or a girl dressed up like a guy?

I think we all evolve as we get older, and that's normal, but I like to think that my recent transition hasn't made me into a different individual. Same person - no difference at all, just a different sex.

From the start. As early as - I felt I was in the wrong sex; I really did. I would go into my dad's room and put on his clothes.

Everyone else is following these male and female tracks that have already been set for them, but when you're trans there is no trail.

I've always been Sarah. My gender identity has always existed. I've always been a woman. Gay people aren't straight before they come out as gay, and transgender people are who they are before they come out and transition.

I think when kids are younger, they don't have these preconceived notions of what a transsexual person is.

True transgenders do hypermasculine things.

I'm very happy with myself and I think - I always say that I think that if you feel like you're not in the right body, then by all means get to where you want to be.

My parents started questioning me about whether or not I was transgender - whether or not I was trying to be a woman. It was a big argument.

My family knew that they loved me, and whatever this 'I want to be a girl' business was, it certainly wasn't about to change that.

I was never going to become a beautiful, passable woman, and I was never going to be a man. It's a quandary. But the trans condition is a beautiful mystery; it's one of nature's best ideas.