Sue Miller Quotes

What is it the I'll want from you? Not love: that would be too much to ask. Not forgiveness, which isn't yours to bestow. Only a listener, perhaps; only someone who will see me. Don't prettify me though, whatever else you do: I have no wish to be a decorated skull. But I leave myself in your hands. What choice do I have? By the time you read this last page, that- if anywhere- is the only place I will be.

My definition of a friend is somebody who adores you even though they know the things you're most ashamed of.

We're all blemished. Yet we do love and are loved.

My mother is not a model. She is not perfect. That awareness is part of learning to love someone. Predicting the actions of someone is an act of love. We persist, even when we get it wrong. That's the beauty of love.

Even when we make mistakes, we hope others will love us in spite of our shortcomings - even if we don't deserve it.

The irony of what I do is that the more you reveal someone in their frailties and shortcomings, the more we feel drawn to them and forgiving we feel of them.

The more you allow yourself to be vulnerable, the more people will be able to relate and learn from you, because we're all human.

I have no shame - all my secrets are out there.

I think when I show my vulnerability, people relate with that because they know deep down inside that they have vulnerable moments, and they can really connect and identify with me on those things.

I think being vulnerable to other humans is a form of strength.

I have nothing to be ashamed of. And I love to talk about the things that I am ashamed of.

I feel like the more real we are, the more people will respect that.

I think people relate to me because of the ups and downs I have had. I mean, I've shared a lot of strong emotions in my life, that I think maybe 'cause they believe I'm not scared to tell everybody I'm a human being.

We like flawed people.

Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.

You gave me back the paradise That I thought I lost for good You helped me find the reasons why It took me by surprise that you understood You knew all along What I never wanted to say Until I learned to love myself I was never ever lovin' anybody else.

The more personal you are willing to be and the more intimate you are willing to be about the details of your own life, the more universal you are. Everybody needs to be understood. And out of that comes every form of love.

It doesn't matter how old you are, there is a little child within who needs love and acceptance.

Give people permission to be who they are and they will love, thank, and respect you forever.

We cannot forgive another for not being ourselves.

All I want, is for you to love me. Not because of what I can do or what I look like, or because I love you - just because I am.

Truth makes love possible; love makes truth bearable.

I have a word for you. I know your whole life story. I know every skeleton in your closet. I know every moment of sin, shame, dishonesty and degraded love that has darkened your past. Right now I know your shallow faith, your feeble prayer life, your inconsistent discipleship. And my word is this: I dare you to trust that I love you just as you are, and not as you should be. Because you’re never going to be as you should be.

The truce is that. You forgive all of these moments because you're constantly waiting for the moment when you will be seen. As an equal. As just another person. As another first person. There's a letting go that comes with it.

We do not need the forgiveness of God, but of each other and of ourselves.