Samuel R. Delany Quotes

She had fallen in love so many times that she began to suspect she was not falling in love at all, but doing something much more ordinary.

There's something depressing about a young couple helplessly in love. Their state is so perfect, it must be doomed. They project such qualities on their lover that only disappointment can follow.

Imagination which comes into play in falling in love is different from any other. Certainly in my case, and I've fallen in love all my life, one imagines the person to be as you want them to be. They frequently turn out to be someone different, for better or worse.

A love affair begins with a fantasy. For instance, that the beloved will always be there.

Don't fall in love with your leading man. Of course, that's just what I did.

From my experience, not one in twenty marries the first love; we build statues of snow and weep to see them melt.

Tell me then, does love make one a fool or do only fools fall in love?

But I had been in love pretty often and I didn't think it stood the wear and tear.

Don't Fall in Love with a Dreamer

It's goodbye to reality when love sets in.

Once the love bug wears off, as it inevitably does, you are shocked to discover that you really didn't know the object of your affections at all. We know this to be so, even as we repeat the same mistake over and over and over.

ONE THING I AM NEVER GOING TO DO WHEN I GROW UP Is fall in love, drop out of college, learn to subsist on water and air, have a species named after me, and ruin my life.

Love's an illusion. It's a dream you wake up from with an enormous hangover and net credit debt. I'd rather have cash.

So to compare your real life, or your partner or lover or whoever to a character in a movie, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. They don't map.

I read and I read; and I was like a medieval king, I had fallen in love with the picture long before I saw the reality.

By poeticizing love, we imagine in those we love virtues that they often do not possess; this then becomes the source of constant mistakes and constant distress.

Because it corresponds to a vital need, love is overvalued in our culture. It becomes a phantom - like success - carrying with it the illusion that it is a solution for all problems.

Was there some basic flaw in her makeup that made her keep falling in love with this man who couldn’t love her back?

I feel like, when we're kids, you're sold into this fairy tale of what love is. That Prince Charming's gonna come along and save you and you're gonna live happily ever after. They're gonna rescue me from the Bronx, and we're gonna go off and live in a castle somewhere and it's gonna be awesome. He's gonna love me forever, and I'm gonna love him forever, and it's gonna be real easy. And it's so different than that.

It's interesting that you don't always fall in love with someone that you're perfectly perfect for.

You'd rather make up a fantasy version of somebody in your head than be with a real person.

Before you meet the love of your life, there's usually one guy you date that you try to convince yourself is him. Let me save you some time: He's not.

You got a lot of ladies to get through. You’re still young. First love’s the sweetest, but it doesn’t last.” “Not ever?” I ask. Grandad looks at me with a seriousness he reserves for moments when he wants me to really pay attention. “When we fall that first time, we’re not really in love with the girl. We’re in love with being in love. We’ve got no idea what she’s really about—or what she’s capable of. We’re in love with our idea of her and of who we become around her. We’re idiots.