Leo Tolstoy Quotes

At the same time I know that it’s not really their fault, at least not completely. I did my part too. I did it on a hundred different days and in a thousand different ways, and I know it. But this makes the anger worse, not better.

Anger, and the self-righteousness that is both the cause and consequence of anger, tends to be easier on the psyche than personal responsibility.

The man who can smile when things go wrong has thought of someone else he can blame it on.

When people disappoint you, it's just as much your responsibility to be aware of it and what you don't want.

I don't think any one person is the cause of all of someone else's problems.

You can blame the other guy for saying it, or you can look at yourself and say, 'I must have contributed to this.'

Whenever I'm trying to understand people that I don't understand, or things in people or even in myself, I'll say, 'When did this negativity get here?' I try to think back to how I was raised to deal with things, and then consider how the person that I'm dealing with grew up.

We are almost always guilty of the hate we encounter.

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.

Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself.

I'm very observant and very instinctive. In life, you have to have the vulnerability to accept when you are to blame. And I do have that, and I am open enough to say it.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.

If the present world go astray, the cause is in you, in you it is to be sought.

When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.

You're going to be much less likely to point the finger at somebody and create a huge brouhaha when it wasn't necessary if you had stopped and asked yourself, 'Could I have done things to prevent this situation?'

I think that fans are always looking for someone to blame. Wouldn't it be nice if they looked in the mirror?

I have always been willing to take the blame for the things I have done.

That, Madam, is my misfortune, not my fault.

Stop blaming the world—look inside!

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for... reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration.

We must look for our own blame to find our own personality.

When you encounter some problems, if you point your finger at yourself and not at others, this gives you control over yourself and calmness in a situation, where otherwise self-control becomes problematic.

The average human's fundamental project is to find someone else to blame for their problems.

The only way I can be angry at you is when I have thought, said, or done something that is unkind in my own opinion.

All of the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in the making of assumptions and taking things personally. The whole world of control between humans is based on that.