Jane Green Quotes

The first lesson of life is to burn our own smoke; that is, not to inflict on outsiders our personal sorrows and petty morbidness, not to keep thinking of ourselves as exceptional cases.

How could I be so immature to think you could replace the missing elements in me. How extremely lazy of me.

I behaved worse than anybody for 15 years, and you have to pay the price for that. I used to blame other people, then therapy made me realise I had to change.

You can never control other people. You can only control yourself. I have definitely learned that.

I just have to be myself. I'm not perfect, and I'm going to make mistakes; I might say the wrong thing. I have to be responsible to my community, and I feel like I am, but then I have to not be so hard on myself.

The real question is: How do you react? What do you do next? Evade responsibilities? Bury yourself in work? What do you do? All three of my novels take up that question, although none gives an answer.

One of the things you learn in rehab is that you're responsible for your own actions.

You have to take responsibility for how you act. You can't fix everyone.

The only person who needs to know about failure is yourself.

I don't think any one person is the cause of all of someone else's problems.

I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

I've been in therapy. I know enough about myself now to know that I really don't need to know anymore.

I find that we must be careful not to judge or weigh in on anything other than ourselves. I am living and learning this still!

I tend to process emotional stuff very, very slowly.

The issues that black men face oftentimes are the issues that everyone faces. Do you have the ability to be present? Are you working on yourself? Do you understand what it means to be a man? To be responsible, loving, vulnerable?

I'm a grown man. I don't point fingers.

We all have insecurities. It takes maintenance and constant practice to first identify what they are so we can have an understanding of how we tick and, second, to put forth the action to deal with them.

People hold me accountable. Before I would push people away, but that's not a way to be successful.

I've had enough off-screen romances and now I'm happy being socially and emotionally challenged, on and off camera.

Of course there is a lot of things you can work on and change and all that, but first I think you should look at yourself before you actually start trying to find excuse in the other people, whether it's going to be coach, physio, family, or whoever else is on your side.

I don't feel insecure about any of this work anymore. Maybe I don't have what I had when I was younger. I'm not really hungry to prove anything to anybody, really. But when I stand outside myself and observe what I think are my strengths and weaknesses going into directing, it's what you just said, an affliction to organize moments.

I’ve aged, but I don’t think I’ve grown up.

Maturity involves being honest and true to oneself, making decisions based on a conscious internal process, assuming responsibility for one's decisions, having healthy relationships with others and developing one's own true gifts. It involves thinking about one's environment and deciding what one will and won't accept.

Circumstances do not push or pull. They are daily lessons to be studied and gleaned for new knowledge and wisdom. Knowledge and wisdom that is applied will bring about a brighter tomorrow. A person who is depressed is spending too much time thinking about the way things are now and not enough time thinking about how he wants things to be.

I guess it has to be healthy, you have to be honest with yourself and I think that's when ego is okay.