Sue Grafton Quotes

Always keep your ego in check and not be afraid to listen. Listening is a great art form.

However, it must always remain a dialogue, and never an imposition of the church's own convictions and methods. Propose, not impose. To serve, and not to dominate.

When I was young I used to listen to other people and to try and understand what they thought and where they were coming from. I listened and didn't speak.

In order to practice dialogue, you need to be able to set aside your assumptions and try to listen more than you want to talk. It's not always politically correct to be able to do that, but it can give you a better sense of the reality.

I just want to be more willing to listen to many people and be cautious about what I'm doing.

Listening to others, especially those with whom we disagree, tests our own ideas and beliefs. It forces us to recognize, with humility, that we don't have a monopoly on the truth.

Dialogue cannot exist without humility.

Be very, very patient and very open-minded, and listen to what people have to say.

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.

As Christians we need to be patient, understanding, and kind. Instead of going on the attack, we can ask genuine questions. Instead of bristling when our narrative is summarily dismissed, we can carefully explain our way of seeing things. And when we are wrong, we won't be afraid to say so.

Real men know how to listen, and real men know how to be honest.

There is a time to speak and a time to listen, and sometimes people need to shut up.

Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.

Try to keep your mind open to possibilities and your mouth closed on matters that you don't know about. Limit your 'always' and your 'nevers.'

We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.

True wisdom listens more, talks less and can get along with all types of people.

Some people think that you have to be the loudest voice in the room to make a difference. That is just not true. Often, the best thing we can do is turn down the volume. When the sound is quieter, you can actually hear what someone else is saying. And that can make a world of difference.

The world would be happier if men had the same capacity to be silent that they have to speak.

I try to teach my kids to be open.

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.

Resist the need to be 'right' all the time or to always have the last word.

The best rules to form a young man, are, to talk little, to hear much, to reflect alone upon what has passed in company, to distrust one's own opinions, and value others that deserve it.

One of the things my father taught me was you should not exclude those who are opposed to your ideas.

It's very important in life to know when to shut up. You should not be afraid of silence.

Humility, I have learned, must never be confused with meekness. Humility is being open to the ideas of others.