Pema Chodron Quotes

A foolishness is inflicted with a hatred of itself.

Only self-hatred could lead him to ruin himself because his heart was "broken.

When our hatred is violent, it sinks us even beneath those we hate.

When we don't know who to hate, we hate ourselves.

I know very well that I have no reason to feel aggrieved - I am fully aware of how lucky I am, but knowing it and still being down makes me hate myself all the more.

To one's enemies: "I hate myself more than you ever could.

Hatred is always self hatred, and there is something suicidal about it.

For what is delusion but the prelude to hurt. And what is hurt but the prelude to rage.

The self-hatred that destroys is the waste of unfulfilled promise.

I've always turned my anger inwards towards self-destruction.

An angry father is most cruel towards himself.

I hate myself for loving you and the weakness that it showed. You were just a painted face on a trip down to suicide road.

Men become cannibals of their own hearts; remorse, regret, and restless impatience usurp the place of more wholesome feeling: every thing seems better than that which is.

Affliction hardens and discourages us because, like a red hot iron, it stamps the soul to its very depths with the scorn, the disgust, and even the self-hatred and sense of guilt that crime logically should produce but actually does not.

Self-hatred is worse than loneliness.

We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.

Pain in the present is experienced as hurt. Pain in the past is remembered as anger. Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety. Unexpressed anger, redirected against yourself and held within, is called guilt. The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.

Angry men make themselves beds of nettles.

Once the pain-body has taken you over, you want more pain. You become a victim or a perpetrator. You want to inflict pain, or you want to suffer pain, or both. There isn't really much difference between the two. You are not conscious of this, of course, and will vehemently claim that you do not want pain. But look closely and you will find that your thinking and behavior are designed to keep the pain going, for yourself and others. If you were truly conscious of it, the pattern would dissolve, for to want more pain is insanity, and nobody is consciously insane.

Because if I let myself feel the pain and the anger, I think it might kill me. Or I might kill someone else. I know it's wrong to feel that way about God and I know its's wrong to not feel anything. I hate it. I don't hate God. I hate not loving Him.

I know that you cannot hate other people without hating yourself.

The only person we'll hate more than each other is ourselves.

I was still searching for someone to blame for my suffering. I really wanted someone to transfer my hate to, so that I could stop hating myself.