Richard Rohr Quotes

If you don't transform your suffering, you'll transmit it.

If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it.

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

Love's wounds can be healed only by the one who inflicts them.

When inward tenderness finds the secret hurt, pain itself will crack the rock and Ah! Let the soul emerge.

All great spirituality is about what we do with our pain. If we do not transform our pain, we will transmit it to those around us.

Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.

A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it.

You start to realize connections between experiences and things that push your buttons, and things that have touched you in those vulnerable areas and what-have-you. And they form a little collection over time - at least I do - and as time progresses and new things are learned, you kind of sift through those things until they're air or danceable, you know? But they start as this thing that's either too hard or too soft to dance to.

We have to face the pain we have been running from. In fact, we need to learn to rest in it and let its searing power transform us.

To heal our wounds, we need courage to face them.

Pain is inevitable. It is actually a great opportunity for growth, but when we blame or fail to take responsibility for our suffering, the pain becomes stagnant, and stagnant pain can have a compounding effect if left unchecked.

We cannot heal what we cannot feel.

Emotional pain of any kind is a reminder to stop and look inside.

I'm a big believer in the idea that while we are the sum of our tears, we are also the product of our choices in how we deal with those tears.

Some people are afraid of what they might find if they try to analyze themselves too much, but you have to crawl into your wounds to discover where your fears are. Once the bleeding starts, the cleansing can begin.

In order to heal others, we first need to heal ourselves. And to heal ourselves, we need to know how to deal with ourselves.

You can't heal what you don't acknowledge.

One day I looked at something in myself that I had been avoiding because it was too painful. Yet once I did, I had an unexpected surprise. Rather than self-hatred, I was flooded with compassion for myself because I realized the pain necessary to develop that coping mechanism to begin with.

If I break my finger, I go to accident and emergency. If I have a cold, I go to the pharmacy. If I'm broken inside, where do I go? So, to help myself heal, I felt the best way to do this would be to talk, to share and to better understand what it is that I have.

Talking about darker stuff from my life was definitely very cathartic and at times confronting.

What you start learning is that to get over a breakup, you kind of have to live through the emotions and not run away from it because then it lasts longer.

Your dragons are the frightened parts of your personality, and you alone can experience and heal them.

Smile with instinct, then lick your wounds in the darkest of dark corners. Trace the scars back to your own fingers and remember them.

If you desire to know where your spiritual work lies, look to your emotional pain.