Jay Asher Quotes

'Talk to me,' it's what you say to someone to let them know you're there. Just three simple words. But saying them out loud could help save a life.

I don't know, but I think kids just want to be listened to, so I want to make sure I do that.

I mean, I try to say the right things and give the right advice. But still, I'm only a person.

When you are open about your things, people feel more able to talk to you. I think that's a nice thing, because people get help and don't feel so isolated.

It's kind of cliche, but communication is the biggest thing in a relationship. You have to talk; you have to express yourselves. You don't want to look back and resent not being heard.

I can't just expect people to know what to say. I have to make them see me as more than my illness.

I've been privileged to be able to be a part of some of my girlfriends' lives at their breaking points.

No one wants everyone to know how sick they are and everyone to see how much they are struggling. And when that seems to be the focus, of making sure everyone sees how sick you are, that's just confusing to someone that is trying to be supportive.

Not listening to people who care about you, not to be open or transparent, will make you isolated.

For me, romance isn't an over-the-top act. It's someone offering to help and to support me. Or if that person thinks I'm making the wrong decision, he'll tell me. I want him to be honest, because being that honest takes a lot of guts.

My wife Patrice, in addition to being enormously supportive, has taught me a lot about life. She might argue it's because I have so much to learn. One of the most important things I've learned is the art of listening.

I think you can be the greatest orator of all time, the greatest motivator of all times, but if those players know that you don't care about them, and you don't try to understand them, then they're never going to hear what you have to say.

If there's one thing I've learned about women, which I try to pass on to my boys, it's listening. Listen to the other side of the story first.

The most challenging part of being a dad is self-restraint. So often your instinct is to teach and tell. I am constantly reminding myself to listen to them.

Silence may be golden, but can you think of a better way to entertain someone than to listen to him?

It's so important to keep a marriage alive with small treats and doing little things for each other. Just remembering to say nice things and to have listening time is vital. That ghastly phrase 'quality time' means taking three minutes to sit down and be still with someone rather than yelling over your shoulder as you rush out.

Until you've had depression I don't think you're qualified to talk about it.

It's my job that if somebody wants to have a discussion about something, I'm certainly sensitive to that, and I'm willing to do it.

Let's use our stories to encourage listening to one another and to hear not just the good news, but also the pain that lies at the back of a lot of people's stories and histories.

We try to keep a good line of communication open with our children. It's not always about trying to just teach them every moment, but it's about listening to them and trying to understand them and gain that sense of communication so when they need to talk to someone, they know that we're there.

When you are honest and open with young people, they let you in.

You can win more friends with your ears than with your mouth. People who feel like they're being listened to feel accepted and appreciated. They feel like they're being taken seriously and what they say really matters.

In my experience with women that I've dated and my wife now, is you have to know what they care about. And even if you aren't a huge fan of it, you still have to have interest in it and it has to be genuine because women do it for men all the time.

When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.

My wife tells me I need to learn to be more patient with my son.