Fran Lebowitz Quotes

As you get older, you realize just figuring out how to be nice to the people in your personal sphere is almost more challenging than trying to change the bigger culture.

I enjoy working with people. I understand that as a necessity. And clearly that's something that develops as you get older. And I've grown into that.

I've always gotten along with guys better.

I didn't really blossom until my mid teens, and by that time I had to work on my personality to make people like me. I found it easy to make people laugh and I was always pretty popular.

I just give off this kind of feminine vibe which has... served me so well with women in my life.

Some people are inherently likeable. If you're not - work on it. It may even improve your social life.

Over the years, I just started paying a lot more attention not to whether I was right or wrong, but just to how I make people feel.

Sensitivity doesn't necessarily make you easy to get on with.

I had to learn to be more open with people and to know how to show that I was interested in them.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

Life is a matter of dealing with other people, in little matters and cataclysmic ones, and that means a series of conversations.

I envy people who have the capacity to sit with another human being and find them endlessly interesting, I would rather watch TV. Of course this becomes eventually known to the other person.

I don't know how to make people like me. Cinna, how do you make people like you?

I find people confusing.

Every man depends on the quantity of sense, wit, or good manners he brings into society for the reception he meets with in it.

Sometimes you're not like the person you'd want to hang out with. Would I really want to hang out with me full time? No, you've gotta find people who balance you out.

Basically, I wasn't properly socialized, so it made sense to do physics.

Acting serves as the quintessential social lubricant and a device for protecting our interests and gaining advantage in every aspect of life.

It was a very easy way to have a group of friends on a very large campus - a sense of identity. It was a great place to learn how to navigate a variety of personalities, which you kind of have to do in life. You've got the shy woman and you've got the obnoxious woman and you've got the brainiac and you've got the social climber and you've got the introvert and the extrovert, and you're all living together. I think it gave me valuable experience in learning how to live with people that are different than you are. And that's an important lesson. You can bet it comes in very handy in the Senate.

It seems unfortunate that strong people are usually so disagreeable and overbearing that no one cares for them. In fact, to be different from your fellow creatures is always a misfortune.

Recently it was pointed out to me - in a kind of hurtful way, to be honest - that people in Los Angeles are aurally challenged. That is, at social events, we simply do not listen to others. We do not ask them questions about themselves, we do not nod attentively when they speak; really, if we were to examine ourselves, we would realize that we simply have no interest in others at all.

I am ever fascinated by the human experience and by, actually, human beings.

In relationship with others, it is only you mirrored.

The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.

Perhaps I'm missing the gene for making enemies.