Ron Finley Quotes

There is something very intriguing about, for example, the sense of accomplishment that a small child has, which you might be able to reduce to aggression and libido, but which might also have some independent existence.

By definition, to work with me, you need thicker skin and must be OK with a certain amount of verbal abuse!

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.

You can instill fear in your kids and get them to mind, but they won't function better in the world and your relationship will suffer greatly.

Any father whose son raises his hand against him is guilty of having produced a son who raised his hand against him.

I never want to make a child worried or afraid, and I don't think I do. My pictures are born from the belief that children are far more capable and aware of social complexities than we give them credit for.

This question: 'How do I deal with a bully without becoming a thug in return?' has been with me ever since I was a child.

A child who has overcome challenges with proper emotional support will emerge stronger.

Bullies really bother me a lot. A lot, a lot.

All people naturally hate. My kid bites people now. I didn't teach my kid to bite anybody. Kids say mean stuff. Only through love do we get this evil out of them. Only through love and structure and discipline do they not hate. The kids that hate didn't learn anything, that's the problem.

I'm not joining in personal attacks... I don't do personal attacks.

If someone criticizes me, I strike back.

If you think that your child is going to be really sensitive to the fact that they might not win - which they probably won't - you shouldn't do it because it's not healthy if they get the feeling that they're not good enough or they're not worthy.

If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.

Don't live vicariously through your kids or try to shape them into who you wanted to be, like the popular kid or an athlete. Children should be given the opportunity to be themselves.

We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness - but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive person is to be honoured, valued and respected.

Kids aren't born to be bullies, they're taught to be bullies.

The thing that helped me come to terms with performing was an anxiety, a desperation for acceptance. There was never enough positive motivation in my life.

A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt 'Don't bother me - I've got important work to do.'

I find it's usually the bullies who are the most insecure.

For a long time I thought I could deal with my anger and hostility on my own. But I couldn't. I denied that it had affected me, and yet I was so frantic on the inside with other people: I needed to be constantly reassured.

I believe in my kids 100 percent. When you have confidence in them, they have confidence in themselves.

I don't like fights. I don't like aggressive people.

Fear is not a good teacher. The lessons of fear are quickly forgotten.

The solution to putting an end to bullying is to stop it at the source but also to find out what is causing the person to behave the way that they do.