Terence Rattigan Quotes

Love is brief: forgetting lasts so long.

Most of us need time to work through pain and loss. We can find all manner of reasons for postponing forgiveness. One of these reasons is waiting for the wrongdoers to repent before we forgive them. Yet such a delay causes us to forfeit the peace and happiness that could be ours.

What made losing someone you loved bearable was not remembering but forgetting. Forgetting small things first... it's amazing how much you could forget, and everything you forgot made that person less alive inside you until you could finally endure it. After more time passed you could let yourself remember, even want to remember. But even then what you felt those first days could return and remind you the grief was still there, like old barbed wire embedded in a tree's heartwood.

Time washes clean, love's wounds unseen.

You'll find it-when you try to die- The Easier to let go- For recollecting such as went- You could not spare-you know.

The art is not one of forgetting but letting go. And when everything else is gone, you can be rich in loss.

See, as much as you want to hold on to the bitter sore memory that someone has left this world, you are still in it

Forgiveness has its comforts, but it can never give you back what you've lost.

Since grief only aggravates your loss, grieve not for what is past.

Time takes away the grief of men.

Better by far you should forget and smile that you should remember and be sad.

The tears I have cried over Germany have dried. I have washed my face.

Perhaps it's more merciful to forget the dead instead of remembering them.

It's never nice to lose someone close to you; unfortunately, life goes on, and we have to make peace with it and move on.

Time will heal everything.

In the end you can't always choose what to keep. You can only choose how you let it go.

Do i really want him dead? What i want... what i want is to have him back.

Everyone knows pain. We are not meant to carry it forever. We were never meant to hold it so closely, so be certain in the belief that what pain belongs to now will belong soon to then. That when someone asks you how was your day, realize that for some of us - it's the only way we know how to say, be calm. Loosen your grip, opening each palm, slowly now - let go.

Everything we love goes. So to be able to grieve that loss, to let go, to have that grief be absolutely full, is the only way to have our heart be full and open.

What was the point of being able to forgive, when deep down, you both had to admit you'd never forget?

When we have painful memories from hurting experiences, we may feel justified in holding on to the resentment. But resentment is corrosive. It doesn't affect the person we feel anger toward, it destroys the host.

Sometimes things are better off forgotten.

Some people, they can't just move on, you know, mourn and cry and be done with it. Or at least seem to be. But for me... I don't know. I didn't want to fix it, to forget. It wasn't something that was broken. It's just...something that happened. And like that hole, I'm just finding ways, every day, of working around it. Respecting and remembering and getting on at the same time.

How am I supposed to let you go, that's all I'm asking. I want to hold you again, smell you, and, yes too, I just want you to fade. To please, please fade.

When we forgive someone, we do not forget the hurtful act, as if forgetting came along with the forgiveness package, the way strings come with a violin. Begin with the basics. If you forget, you will not forgive at all. You can never forgive people for things you have forgotten about. You need to forgive precisely because you have not forgotten what someone did; your memory keeps the pain alive long after the hurt has stopped. Remembering is the storage of pain. It is why you need to be healed in the first place.