Alan Ball Quotes

I think for a long time I wasn't really out to myself growing up in Omaha, Neb., to a Catholic conservative family. It took me a while to come out to myself, and not long after that, I came out to them. I think that it really couldn't have been a better experience. They were all immediately supportive.

Realizing I was gay was a long sort of waking up.

I think one's sexuality can be the center of life, and coming out and discovering your sexuality is something that really can define your existence.

If I wouldn't have found Courtney, I probably would have carried on with a bisexual lifestyle.

Discovering I'm gay just sort of happened much later in life.

I was certainly open for something being on the edge of a nervous breakdown, perplexed by my own sexuality. I was gay.

Frankly, no one had ever asked me before. My sexuality is something I'm completely comfortable with and open about.

I'm proud of my sexuality.

I realize it's a cliche, almost, that coming out of the closet is a very healthy and empowering thing to do, but for me, it really has been a truly wonderful thing.

Someone said to me a long time ago, 'You're a drag queen,' and at the time I was a little like... hello? But then I realized over the years that I actually am.

It took me a long time, not necessarily to come out, but to understand how I was feeling. It wasn't planned for me to come out with 'First Girl' or anything. I just so happened to have met my current girlfriend on the set.

The gay community just recognizes what their closets are and we straight have to spend years trying to figure out which closet we are trapped in.

The fact is, I'm gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn't be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.

My depression at the end of Wham! was because I was beginning to realise I was gay, not bi.

When I realised that I had feelings for men as well as women, at first I was worried and frightened, and there was a certain amount of 'Who am I? Am I a criminal?' and so on. It took me a long time to come to terms with myself. Those were painful years - painful then and painful to look back on.

After coming out as gay, I soon felt a lot more comfortable in my life, moment to moment.

I'm homosexual... How and why are idle questions. It's a little like wanting to know why my eyes are green.

In terms of sexual orientation I don't really feel I've changed. I don't feel there was a hidden part of my sexuality that I wasn't aware of. I'd been with men all my life, and I'd never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn't seem so strange.

I could always escape into this demi-monde of homosexuality, which I feel really indebted to. It stopped me being a 'mummy's boy.'

The writing was so clearly written on the wall about me, but I didn't see it. I had no role models. I didn't know there was even a possibility of being gay. I battled with it, but this was the way God made me. If you have a problem with it, take it up with the man upstairs.

I would encourage anybody struggling with their sexuality to go with their heart. If it's not an appropriate time, there will be one later. Never, ever try to rush into anything - do it in your own time.

I was homophobic because I obviously didn't know that I was gay.

I try to treat my orientation the same way I would if I was straight, which is to talk about it when it's relevant.

I really didn't talk about my sexuality until I wrote my autobiography.

I felt so much pressure to come out on other people's terms, you know? I should have come out.