Jose Antonio Vargas Quotes

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

I have a lot of people in my life, and I think there's something key: the thing that leads to intimacy and relationship and connection is tenderness.

The delicate and infirm go for sympathy, not to the well and buoyant, but to those who have suffered like themselves.

You can relate to somebody's pain and you have compassion, which can lead to intimacy.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

People talked to me in a way I think they would not have talked to somebody who hadn't shared the experience; they gave me their papers, they gave me their diaries. I found people constantly opening up to me. And I think they did because I had shared that experience with them.

I don't quite know how to put it into words, but I feel for the audience that I have; I know them.

When you are open about your things, people feel more able to talk to you. I think that's a nice thing, because people get help and don't feel so isolated.

Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people, they give up their secrets also - if you love them enough.

Love is - OK, it's 20 things, but it isn't 19. And I think that love reaches for something which is very, very deep in us and is very easily obscured, and is also very easily denied, which is the instinct towards the other person, other than toward the self.

An exchange of empathy provides an entry point for a lot of people to see what healing feels like.

I think, when you get to know somebody on a personal level were you truly understand what makes them tick, what they play for, things they like to do in their spare time, you're around their families, I think you're kind of able to kind of coexist more when you have a relationship.

My music is straightforward because I want to give people me and let them know they're not alone in going through the things that they go through.

It sounds cliche, but communication is the number one way to keep a relationship solid.

When one person says, 'Yeah, me, too,' it gives permission for others to open up.

Not listening to people who care about you, not to be open or transparent, will make you isolated.

I show them the funny part, the silly part, the laughing part, the crazy part and then the really deep, deep part where I'm talking from my heart to these people. Because I've been through everything they've been through.

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

I don't have any fear of intimacy, but rather thrive on it, which is rare in a public person.

For me, compatibility is a sense of humour, being able to laugh together; that is very important.

The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when.

There are some things you can't share without ending up liking each other.

All I want is for people, when they read my books, to feel companioned, to feel they're not alone in the world.

My best advice would be that you have to be vulnerable with each other. Like, everyone says you have to be honest, you have to communicate; like, yes, of course, but you gotta be willing to be vulnerable.

Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.