Kathleen Flinn Quotes

As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable 'good girl,' they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships - and what people think of them - at all costs.

We limit ourselves. We're told to act and behave in certain way from birth.

I didn't have a dysfunctional childhood or young adulthood, but I was somebody who was very much raised to do what other people told me to do as a person.

We delude ourselves into believing that morality comes from somewhere else, whereas in reality we behave as we've been told to behave.

Peer pressure is a huge part of youth behavior, whether one grows up in Washington, D.C., or Cody, Wyo.

Although at the time I didn't realize what was happening, I was unable to make a decision that might displease those around me. For years, whatever directive I may have issued ended with the phrase, 'If it's all right with you.' If I thought I'd done anything to make someone unhappy, I'd agonize.

When you're a child, no matter if you're doing show business or sports or school or anything, you just want to make the adults happy.

When you grow up in a totally segregated society, where everybody around you believes that segregation is proper, you have a hard time. You can't believe how much it's a part of your thinking.

I think that every child grows up with the ideas that what we are given, is our society. Your education, and your mother and father, they tell you this is how it is, but then you hit adolescence and you think, 'Is it? Why? Why is it like that?' Sometimes that questioning leads to something more.

There is an invisible garment woven around us from our earliest years; it is made of the way we eat, the way we walk, the way we greet people.

I didn't know the word no, because I wanted to please everybody all the time. Every kid does.

I was raised to pretend.

Peer pressure and social norms are powerful influences on behaviour, and they are classic excuses.

I think your values are always influenced by your family and your community.

By education most have been misled; So they believe, because they were bred. The priest continues where the nurse began, And thus the child imposes on the man.

All of us grow up in particular realities - a home, family, a clan, a small town, a neighborhood. Depending upon how we're brought up, we are either deeply aware of the particular reading of reality into which we are born, or we are peripherally aware of it.

I caved in to what people wanted me to do. I thought that they weren't going to like me if I didn't.

A lot of times you're just conditioned by what's around you.

This is the kind of world I was born in, one in which I had only one reason for existence: pleasing others.

I go not back of the convention, to make distinctions among its’ members.

My mother's mantra was, 'How would it look to the neighbors?' And so you don't do anything because you're worried about how it would look to the neighbors.

Because we're brought into the world or educated in a certain way, we're trained to accept the world in a certain way.

The voice of authority speaks not for the one but for the many; authority figures have a strong and rapid effect on social norms in part because they change our assumptions about what other people think.

If you want to fit in, you try to mirror whatever anyone wants from you.

I think that we all desperately try to fit in to different molds: our parents, our bosses, our partners, social status, friends. We all figure out a look that we think will get us the job or make his parents approve of us or get that girl to want to go on a date, whatever. We all change ourselves to please whoever it is.