Lauren Groff Quotes

The essential dilemma of my life is between my deep desire to belong and my suspicion of belonging.

I live with the people I create and it has always made my essential loneliness less keen.

I don't really know what 'community' means. And I never use that word.

I can't seem to help writing love stories. I definitely crave romance. When I was young, I craved romance in books, but I didn't want to read just romance - love plays such a big part in our lives, it shouldn't be cut out and restricted to its own fiction.

The value of friends has always been a natural thing. I prefer too many to too few.

I do, indeed, close my door at times and surrender myself to a book, but only because I can open the door again and see a human face looking at me.

She was built for crowds. She has never come any closer to life than the dinner table.

You can't write an image, a metaphor, a story, a phrase, without leaning a little further into the shared world, without recognizing that your supposed solitude is at every point of its perimeter touching some other.

I believe in feeling connected. Love is something that grows, that comes from nourishment; it builds. But there is a great feeling that happens, that is telling you, I don't want to leave this room!

The last few years I've had to force myself to go out and be more involved the world because I can get a bit more cerebral and escape into characters and the world of characters. But now I guess I escape into stories about 'Wilfred.'

Human beings are not designed to be alone. None of God's creatures are.

As an adult, you want to connect with people, and you want to feel accepted.

A lot of the things that we do in life are to find connection.

I want to be a part of stories.

While loneliness has the potential to kill, connection has even more potential to heal.

I think growing up in such a small town - before cell phones, before the Internet, before Facebook, before we had access to people's interiors - there was a great deal of space between people's lives. I spent a lot of time imagining into the lives of the people I grew up with.

When people are with me, who can say I am alone.

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the conversation.

If you're feeling abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can.

We are awakening from the dream of isolation, from the dream of loneliness, and it's a terrible shock.

One of the oldest aches in the bones of humanity is loneliness. I mean it's one of the things that goes way back; loneliness is not good for the world. And so, whoever you are, gay or straight, it is totally normal, natural, and healthy to want somebody to go through life with. It's central to our humanity.

I'm lonely and I'm still kind of searching for someone I can have a real connection with.

Fiction is one of the few experiences where loneliness can be both confronted and relieved.

I really love to be with people. It's nice, that. To have achieved sudden intimacy with strangers is perhaps the most human thing you can do. We all love our friends and families, as much as we hate them. When you can achieve intimacy with strangers, it's very exciting and heartening.

My stories tend to bring people from isolation into community - with at least one other person, usually with a whole community of people - so that they find themselves accepted back by a world that they kind of fled from.