Armistead Maupin Quotes

Just the fact that you need me to prove I love you is probably a clue it isn’t working

Sometimes I think my husband is so amazing that I don't know why he's with me. I don't know whether I'm good enough. But if I make him happy, then I'm everything I want to be.

I'm always surrounded by good-looking guys, like Zac Efron, so I have to be with someone who's not going to get jealous about any of that, or when I'm kissing somebody in a scene.

I've always been shocked and waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop that a girl would ever talk to me, let alone want to marry me. They always seem to hold the power to me, and from my mother to my wife to my daughter, every time I try to really figure them out, and think I've got them pegged, I pay for it.

I didn't want to be known as Madonna's playboy, her boy toy.

I must quit marrying men who feel inferior to me. Somewhere there must be a man who could be my husband and not feel inferior.

Boundaries get blurry and identities can get lost easily. It's easy to take your partner for granted.

Some women have said, 'Gee, here I am getting involved with this fat guy, what will people think of me?' But they were converted and sometimes surprised.

I'm not very comfortable with what people sometimes say or think about me - things I don't feel responsible for.

What was weird for me after 'Amelie' was how people look at you. It moves all your relationships and sometimes even your intimate ones, and you don't understand why suddenly everything around you changes, because you are exactly the same person.

I think one of my big struggles with being famous in my early 20s was that there was a constant running commentary telling me who I was.

A lot of my self-worth is based on what I do. And if you take that away I just mope.

She surprised him by agreeing. "Yes, I was simply curious, and no, I would never criticize you in front of your followers. Do you have the patience to endure one more question, husband?" "What is it?" "When do you suppose you'll leave me behind?

I think my greatest insecurity would just be standing in the middle of the room and having everyone watching me thinking that's what I want. If I am interesting to you because of who I am, then that's incredible. But if I'm interesting to you only because of what I am, then let's not bother, you know?

I am not insecure enough to count the bouquets I receive on my birthday, I don't assess my popularity by the number of magazine covers I am on, I don't get worried if my song is on the seventh position on countdown charts.

How could I be sleeping with this particular man.... Surely only true love could justify my lack of taste.

Of course, I didn't imagine then that I could have had a real relationship with any guy. I thought that by virtue of being me I was disqualified.

She says it's really not very flattering to her that the women who fall in love with her husband are so uncommonly second-rate.

The terrifying thing in my life is that I am just an actress. And I have to keep pushing it and getting approval, approval, approval or I don’t think I’m worth two cents. And I am starting to get over it, thank God. And I’m just sad because I don’t have many years left and I wish I had a longer space of time to think that Elaine Stritch is okay.

To have had fame, even very minor fame, and to have lost it, got older and maybe put on a little weight is a kind of living death.

I think with any sort of rejection, you're angry that you weren't enough for that person. So I don't know if I'm angry at myself for not being enough, or if I'm angry at him for not considering me to be enough.

Pride is the recognition of the fact that you are your own highest value and, like all of man's values, it has to be earned.

And my fear of failure has been lifelong and deep. If you are what you do- and I think my parents may have accidentally given me this idea- and you do poorly, what then? It’s over; you’re wiped out. All those prophecies you heard in the dark have come true, and people can see the real you, see what a schmendrick you are, what a fraud.

It's humiliating to have to explain your value.

What kind of people are these with such low self-esteem that they need a war to feel better about themselves?