Natalie Clifford Barney Quotes

It daunted me that you were so beautiful, that you were so at ease in social situations, as if every room was heliotropic, with you at the center. And I guess it daunted you that I had so many more friends than you, that I could put my words together like this, on paper, and could sometimes conjure a certain sense out of things. The key is to never recognize these imbalances. To not let the dauntingness daunt us.

I'm real comfortable around people, and it took a long time for me to evolve to that point.

Perhaps the basic thing which contributes to charm is the ability to forget oneself and be engrossed in other people.

I think I have kind of a natural magnetism.

We are not won by arguments that we can analyse but by tone and temper, by the manner which is the man himself.

When you have confidence, that's what becomes attractive to other people and makes them want to work with you and spend time with you.

Some people are just quiet - they don't need to be talking all the time and aren't extroverted, but they're not necessarily afraid to talk. I'm not really a shy person.

I just give off this kind of feminine vibe which has... served me so well with women in my life.

Charisma seems to be more about the intoxicating quality that you have on other people, as opposed to presence, which is more about the self in relation to others, and how you feel you represented yourself in a situation, and how you were able to engage. So it's less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.

Being able to walk in a room with people you don't know and be comfortable - I'm very used to that.

I love the American openness and use of language; I just don't know how to be that way.

I am a different person in front of the camera; it comes as easy to me as breathing does.

My position in life has always been to be that person in the room who can make the conversation and break down any awkwardness.

Don't talk about it. The rose doesn't have to propagate its perfume. It just gives it forth, and people are drawn to it. Live it, and people will come to see the source of your power.

When you’re as charming and physically attractive as myself, it’s easy enough to win over people you meet. But getting strangers to love you...now, that’s the trick.

I don't know how to make people like me. Cinna, how do you make people like you?

You can't teach charisma. You can draw it out of people if it's there and they haven't quite figured out how to utilize it yet, but it's just one of those things, that's why they call it the "X factor".

Being charming takes time and effort, and I am busy.

i think charm is the ability to be truly interested in other people

They are a very decent generous lot of people out here and they don't expect you to listen.... It's the secret of social ease in this country. They talk entirely for their own pleasure. Nothing they say is designed to be heard.

I began to understand that there were certain talkers - certain girls - whom people liked to listen to, not because of what they, the girls, had to say, but because of the delight they took in saying it. A delight in themselves, a shine on their faces, a conviction that whatever they were telling about was remarkable and that they themselves could not help but give pleasure. There might be other people - people like me - who didn't concede this, but that was their loss. And people like me would never be the audience these girls were after, anyway.

When you have a well developed body and you're confident, you see people bending your way, wanting to be on your side, wanting to do things for you.

People are either charming or tedious.

A pleasing personality helps you win friends and influence people. Add character to that formula, and keep those friends and maintain that influence.

I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little whether people approve or disapprove.