Roxane Gay Quotes

My parents have had a love marriage, so I have made it pretty clear to them that I, too, will have a love marriage.

When people say 'marriage' to me... It's always a means to an end. Everyone's so in a rush to define the relationship.

Marriages don't last. When I meet a guy, the first question I ask myself is: is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with?

I don't want to make any mistakes. My parents have been married for 40 years. I want to stay married.

I don't have a ton of experience, because I date with the intent to marry... It's how I want a family and how I would want someone to treat my daughter.

If marriage isn't a first priority in your life, you're not married.

My father was married to mother 'til the day he died, for over 64 years. He's why I kept trying to get the marriage thing right. All I knew growing up was that my father was married to and loved my momma, period. He worked hard, made some money, and put it on the dresser. She spent it on the family, and he went out and earned some more. He taught me the most about love.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm not supposed to be married.

I will never say I am committed to somebody unless I'm serious about that person.

I was never a girl who thought about getting married. Being in a relationship wasn't my priority.

Michael and I had great role models. Though his father has passed away, his parents had an amazingly strong marriage, as do mine. Both weathered really tough times. For us it has been normal to stay together through difficulties. We grew up witnessing that firsthand.

I think that marriage is an amazing institution and should be preserved, and you can have great marriages, and you must because sharing your life with someone is like the greatest thing. And I loved being able to set a good example for that on television.

There's a difference... between the kind of woman you would bang and the kind of woman you would marry.

Craziest thing I've done for love is getting married. I think it's crazy. I think it's crazy, crazy, crazy. I'm never going to say I wouldn't do it again but I have to make sure it's love and not settling for the 'I have to do this by a certain age,' which is kind of what I did.

I'm definitely not getting married. In this business, you're either getting married or they want you to be pregnant. I'm not getting married until I'm forty. If ever.

Maids want nothing but husbands, and when they have them, they want everything.

I didn't marry to have children. I married to have a relationship, and I was blessed with one child. I was an only child, too - my mother was smarter than most women today; she just had me.

I'm 29 years old and, sure, I'm looking to find a wife.

I think at some stage, I would love to have another child. I would love to settle into a relationship that was really important to me. I actually am not good at the balance at that.

My parents were married 53 years, good and bad. Can I do that? Probably not. But I really hope I can.

I like being married, but it was never something I felt I had to do.

When your parents are madly in love for 45 years, your standards are really high.

I wanted a relationship like the one my mother and father had. It wasn't perfect; they had to work on it. But there was an unbelievable mutual respect.

I think when you're looking for a lifetime partnership, intimacy is obviously a part of that.

I can't get married for the heck of it only because 'I'm not getting any younger.'