Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Wise is the man who does not disdain any character and instead, examining him with a searching look, plumbs him to the very main-springs of his being.

As soon as you think you know someone else's truth better than they do, you are in deep water.

Lord, where we are wrong, make us willing to change; where we are right, make us easy to live with.

What I have known with respect to myself, has tended much to lessen both my admiration, and my contempt, of others.

A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life, knowing that in this world no one is all-knowing and therefore all of us need both love and charity.

People are stubborn about what they perceive to be the right thing or the wrong thing, and it takes a long time to filter this human condition. There's a waiting period until people catch up. But if you have patience - which it takes when someone thinks differently from you - everybody always catches up. That patience is a wonderful virtue.

As I grow older, I realise that just because I'm so obsessed with the truth, it doesn't mean that everyone else in my life is equally comfortable with it.

I just want to be more willing to listen to many people and be cautious about what I'm doing.

There's a difference in being opinionated and judgmental; I'm still trying to figure out what that fine line is - I think we are all.

I don't really judge myself, I guess. I don't really judge other players.

I make mistakes daily, letting generalizations creep into my thoughts and negatively affect my behavior. These mistakes have taught me that the first step to successfully choosing kindness is being more mindful about it, letting go of impatience and intolerance along the way.

I can't control other people, what their beliefs are.

To date, my biggest lesson may be that judgment of others is never a good thing.

Do not be the judge of people; do not make assumptions about others. A person is destroyed by holding judgments about others.

Acceptance is what we wish for ourselves and often deny others.

Tolerance is the one essential ingredient ... You can take it from me that the Queen has the quality of tolerance in abundance.

Do not judge. Never presume to judge another human being anyway. That's up to heaven.

I think it just came with me evolving as a person and me understanding that it's not right to judge or to say anything derogatory about other people, especially if I don't know them.

Tolerance is really a better thing than understanding. Because it doesn't agitate against human nature.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

Tolerance - the function of an extinguished ardor - tolerance cannot seduce the young.

Never underestimate people. They do desire the cut of truth.

The truth is I try to take people as I find them.

Our human tendency is to be impatient with the person who cannot see the truth that is so plain to us. We must be careful that our impatience is not interpreted as condemnation or rejection.

So let's be honest with ourselves and not take ourselves too serious, and never condemn the other fellow for doing what we are doing every day, only in a different way.