Lauren Oliver Quotes

Each forward step we take we leave some phantom of ourselves behind.

Giving up something that no longer serves a purpose, or protects you, or helps you, isn’t giving up at all, it’s growing up.

You people always hold onto old identities, old faces and masks, long after they've served their purpose. But you've got to learn to throw things away eventually.

People change, no use getting sentimental about it. Move on, find someone else.

To be what you want to be, you must give up being what you are.

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another!

Well, I think the world changes around you - I think you don't change. That's as simple as that.

It’s part of growing up, I suppose…you always have to leave something behind you.

Everybody is changing.

Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.

There was some sadness in how that could happen, Tai thought: falling out of love with something that had shaped you. Or even people who had? But if you didn't change at least a little, where were the passages of a life? Didn't learning, changing, sometimes mean letting go of what had once been seen as true?

It's very hard to grow, because it's difficult to let go of the models of ourselves in which we've invested so heavily.

Or maybe a person is just made up of a lot of peopleMaybe we’re accumulating these new selves all the time. Hauling them in as we make choices, good and bad, as we screw up, step up, lose our minds, find our minds, fall apart, fall in love, as we grieve, grow, retreat from the world, dive into the world, as we make things, as we break things.

You have to let go of who you were to allow yourself to become who you are.

Sometimes you must shed your skin to save it.

I think life goes through a cycle of losing and refinding yourself all the time. Everyone has disappointments all the time, some of them pretty small, some of them pretty big.

But in my heart I knew the old Bryce was toast. There was no going back. Not to Garrett or Shelly or Miranda or any of the other people who wouldn't understand. Juli was different, but after all these years that didn't bother me anymore. I liked it. I liked her.

I was the walrus, but now I am John. And so my friends, you'll just have to carry on. The dream is over.

We must learn to let go, to give up, to make room for the things we have prayed for and desired.

I have to reinvent myself.

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.

Teenagers ultimately don't mind belonging to a group, because there's always the opportunity to eventually become someone new. The elderly, by definition, are running out of opportunities for reinvention.

You can't really go back to where you came from. I don't think any of us can.

Time heals griefs and quarrels, for we change and are no longer the same persons. Neither the offender nor the offended are any more themselves.

Everybody's constantly being destroyed and rebuilding themselves, some more drastically than others.