Ayobami Adebayo Quotes

Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.

If loneliness is part of our essence, that is, our essential nature, that is only because of the way, in practical terms, we actually exist; that is, the way we move and work and live in the world.

Only solitary men know the full joys of frienship. Others have their family; but to a solitary and an exile, his friends are everything.

It's not so," I said. "And how long do you think it will sustain you, feeling and seeing and touching and tasting, if there is no love? No one with you?

Because I have been lonely, I value love.

One of the oldest aches in the bones of humanity is loneliness. I mean it's one of the things that goes way back; loneliness is not good for the world. And so, whoever you are, gay or straight, it is totally normal, natural, and healthy to want somebody to go through life with. It's central to our humanity.

I don't need a man. But I'm happier with one. I like to have someone I can touch and squeeze and kiss. But I don't fold up and die if I don't have a man around.

Only solitary men know the full joys of friendship. Others have their family; but to a solitary and an exile his friends are everything.

How we need another soul to cling to.

No one really wants to admit they are lonely, and it is never really addressed very much between friends and family. But I have felt lonely many times in my life.

You can be much more alone with other people than you are by yourself. Even if it's people you love.

Friends and relatives might be surprised that I think of myself as lonely. I'm married to a man I not only love but like, and we spend a lot of time together. If I feel like socializing, I can usually find someone to meet for coffee or a drink.

The interesting thing is why we're so desperate for this anesthetic against loneliness.

Even if you're independent, I think you get lonely.

We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.

Going through life solo isn't very exciting if you can't share it with somebody, you know?

For me, I value connection a lot, talking to people and connecting. Don't get me wrong: I enjoy having my own time, but I think it's really important to have that connection, so living on Mars would be a struggle for me.

I think people don't want be alone. Ultimately, we want to feel connected. We want to feel like there is someone who actually sees us in the world. That's the big thing: to be seen. How many people actually feel seen?

I've always been someone who needs someone with them to poke and annoy. I'm useless at being by myself.

I think one needs a companion at some point in life.

This whole thing about a woman staying alone and being happy is just a myth. Everyone needs someone in their lives.

Everyone's been lonely at some point and in need of a friend.

Sometimes life is too hard to be alone, and sometimes life is too good to be alone.

That’s what love’s all about. You’re the only one having those wonderful feelings, but you have to go it alone as you wander through the dark your mind and body have to bear it all. All by yourself.