Virginia Williams Quotes

The name of a man is a numbing blow from which he never recovers.

There is a sense of shame that comes with unemployment. I didn't become a movie star, and I was a size 14.

I have an enormous sense of having failed in life.

In the earliest years of the AIDS crisis, there were many gay men who were unable to come out about the fact that their lovers were ill, A, and then dead, B. They were unable to get access to the hospital to see their lover, unable to call their parents and say, 'I have just lost the love of my life.'

One might expect that the families of murder victims would be showered with sympathy and support, embraced by their communities. But in reality they are far more likely to feel isolated, fearful, and ashamed, overwhelmed by grief and guilt, angry at the criminal-justice system, and shunned by their old friends.

Sometimes I feel my whole life has been one big rejection.

In my own mind, I was sort of a desperate kid.

We decided to try in vitro, because both Peter and I felt we couldn't handle another failure. When I miscarried after that, we had to come to terms with the possibility that this wasn't meant to be.

Men mourn for what they have lost; women for what they ain't got.

I have such a lovely life and I just never imagined that I would miscarry a baby.

I can't even say what my greatest fear is because I, I can't even imagine. Being without my family... I can't even say it because it makes me cry.

I didn't want to be the daughter of the crazy people.

Hearing that I had a 3 percent chance of ever having kids was one of the more devastating moments in my life.

It was a sad process for me to become a mom, and a long process. I felt so embarrassed that I couldn't have a biological child.

I do feel at a loss for not having a child of my own at times, very much so.

My father passed away when I was pretty young. I was 7 years old, and I think when that happens, there are a variety of ways that a young person can react to that loss. I think, for me, it kind of put me in a perpetual state of feeling like something is wrong with me and like I didn't belong, or everybody else had things that I didn't have.

Many feel the need to hide their problems from their school friends, work colleagues and even members of their own family.

I can't give birth to my own child; we know that. But it's still embarrassing to me, and that's just how I feel. It's a sensitive subject.

'You Should Be Here' came from a real place. I lost my father... it was right when I was getting my record deal. There's just been so many moments that he hasn't been here for. It's kind of the reason I wrote the song.

there is nothing sorer to the spirit than falling below what one's lover thinks of one.

The bereaved cannot communicate with the unbereaved.

What I was afraid of was my own grief, the weight of it, the ineluctable corrosive force of it, and the stark awareness I had of being, for the first time in my life, entirely alone, a Crusoe shipwrecked and stranded in the limitless wastes of a boundless and indifferent ocean.

Save me from the ranks of the freaks who suspect they can never love anyone.

My grief was cold. It was nothing to share. It was nothing to speak about, nothing to feel.

Feelings and stories of unworthiness and shame are perhaps the most binding element in the trance of fear. When we believe something is wrong with us, we are convinced we are in danger. Our shame fuels ongoing fear, and our fear fuels more shame. The very fact that we feel fear seems to prove that we are broken or incapable. When we are trapped in trance, being fearful and bad seem to define who we are. The anxiety in our body, the stories, the ways we make excuses, withdraw or lash out—these become to us the self that is most real.