Esme Creed-Miles Quotes

I even felt like I liked guys better than women - that men were relevant and women weren't. It took me a while to realize I'd been socialized to have a slighting view of my own gender.

It took me a really long time to get past all of that internalized dissociation with being female that I was being given by media.

The cruelest thing a man can do to a woman is to portray her as perfection.

Men were only made into 'men' with great difficulty even in primitive society: the male is not naturally 'a man' any more than the woman. He has to be propped up into that position with some ingenuity, and is always likely to collapse.

I think we're socialized out of being women, and then we have to find our way back to it. That's hard to do.

One is not born a woman, but becomes one.

Really, in a way, I took over the male role.

Men aren't the way they are because they want to drive women crazy; they've been trained to be that way for thousands of years. And that training makes it very difficult for men to be intimate.

Many differences are rooted in biology and reinforced through culture, so it's important to acknowledge that. Because if you say men and women are the same and if male behaviour is the norm, and women are always expected to act like men, we will never be as good at being men as men are.

All over the world, young males and females, schooled in the art of patriarchal thinking, are building an identity on a foundation that sees the will to do violence as the essential way to assert being.

I was raised to be a girl Michelangelo.

Boys will be boys. And even that wouldn't matter if only we could prevent girls from being girls.

Young women from a very young age are taught that life will be easier if you can just turn on the charming smile and say very little and be complacent and docile and sweet.

Men think about women. Women think about what men think about them.

What we ought to see in the agonies of puberty is the result of the conditioning that maims the female personality in creating the feminine.

Looking back, I can see that the women I loved, at least early on, were status symbols. I suppose, in that sense, I was my mother's true disciple. She'd taught me that a good man, though elusive, could transform one's whole life once he was caught.

Emasculation does seem to be a theme in the roles that I choose.

But alas, I'd have to find a way to be opinionated without being too opinionated, authoritative without being a bitch about it, smart without being elitist, fair without being a pushover. If the boyfriends of my youth found me too authoritative when I should have been cheering on the sidelines as they kicked and tossed and smacked balls toward the vanguard, the male colleagues of my adulthood kept reminding me of my lack of authority as they unconsciously displayed theirs. I was always failing someone's standards of legitimacy, as a girlfriend, as a producer of opinions. It was an eternal no-win.

I'm kind of used to being around guys on set, and I grew up with a brother who treated me like I was a boy.

If you... scaled down human beings, scaled down society, if you land with a group of little boys, they are more like a scaled-down version of society than a group of little girls would be.

I feel like I think like a woman because I grew up with my mother and my sister, so I've just been programmed to think like a girl.

We're really taught to be followers from a very young age - men lead and women follow.

People try to make women a very specific thing so that we like them.

An all-girls school, when you have 800 girls from the age of 11 to 18, you would think, should be a prime opportunity to really inject a sense of confidence and power. And instead, we were very much taught in relation to men, in terms of what the brother school would think of us.

The way I feel seen by the opposite sex is sometimes really detrimental to me. I'm very aware of how I'm constantly being sexualized and objectified in their eyes which makes me feel worthless.