Ellen Hopkins Quotes

Be able to confide your innermost secrets to your mother and your innermost fears to your father.

I used Jimmy to give me what I needed to keep going and to know that I was on the right path with it. I thought I saw Jimmy's soul all the time we worked. He never covered his soul and I never covered mine. We saw into each other's souls, very definitely.

I had to learn to not be so hard. And I had a wife and, at that time, a partner when Samori was born, and for most of Samori's life, a partner, who, for whatever reason, did not have to learn that and was very tender and very, very soft with him.

My family has been really supportive of me and is really happy. They made me who I am and so they trust me and love me and ultimately want me to have love too.

It's still very difficult for me to rely. Your weakness, the blessing of your weakness is it forces you into friendships. The things that you lack, you look for in others.

Why don't you ever use your strength on me?" she said. Because love means renouncing strength," said Franz softly.

You can only really open yourself up so far to someone that you don't truly love - you keep something back when you know somewhere in your gut that this relationship is going to be forever.

Oh, the miraculous energy that flows between two people who care enough to get beyond surfaces and games, who are willing to take the risks of being totally open, of listening, of responding with the whole heart. How much we can do for each other.

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

If I can be my crazy, wild self in front of a person, and he still likes me, that's romantic.

Do not try to live your children's lives out of your own frustrations.

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.

I'll date one day if I find someone that I want to let into my life enough.

Hairdressers don't judge you. They pretty much accept everything because they've heard everything. They're on your side, like a cheerleader, and there's no competition. They don't want to be you, and you don't want to be them.

Friendship is inexplicable, it should not be explained if one doesn't want to kill it.

The best marriages are the ones where we can go out in the world and really put ourselves out there. A lot of times we'll fail, and sometimes we'll pull it off. But good marriages are when you can go home and know that your vulnerability will be honored as courage, and that you'll find support.

I traffic in empathy. I try to be vulnerable with people so they can be vulnerable back. I've always been searching for empathy in other people. It's when I feel most not alone.

The only kind of love worth having is the kind that goes on living and laughing and fighting and loving.

In good relationships, we are happy to grow as the other person becomes part of us and who we are.

It is a parent's responsibility to preserve the connection with their children, to preserve the relationship, so that the children can let go and become their own selves.

Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces.

It's all about the director for me; we have to click. It's a trust thing. I'll say I'm ready to let down my walls. I'll cry for you as long as you need. But you're going to have to hug me afterwards.

Love is very dangerous if you just have love and don't have the ability to be lovable.

Discipline and unconditional support is earned by understanding and trust and inclusion. Not by isolation, not by nasty tricks.

Even in the common affairs of life, in love, friendship, and marriage, how little security have we when we trust our happiness in the hands of others!