Julia Quinn Quotes

When you meet with opposition, even if it should be from your husband or your children, endeavor to overcome it by argument and not by authority, for a victory dependent upon authority is unreal and illusory.

If you want plenty of experience in dealing with difficult people, then have kids.

At home, a man is entitled to raise his voice maybe once a year, if something really gets under his skin. At work, it's different. I raise my voice all the time. Not out of malice, but to get things right. It's never personal.

Consider this: Whenever someone is bothering you, and they just won't let up, and they won't listen to anything you have to say, what do you tell them to get them to shut up and go away? 'You're right.' It works every time. But you haven't agreed to their position. You have used 'you're right' to get them to quit bothering you.

I grew up in a very loud family where you had to fight to get your voice heard, in a good way.

Management is not about shouting and bawling, because some guys will not like that. They take it personally.

If you have a large family like ours, you have to fight to get your point across, and I think I learned that from my dad.

When I have one-on-ones, I usually win those.

You can't always win arguments as a writer, but you have to just go ahead and say, well, I'm doing it that way anyway.

You can win as long as you chose your battles. You can win more arguments then you might think as a writer, even though you legally have no recourse, and your script can get muddied and altered in any way possible. You can use reason, logic, and passion to argue persuasively for a case in your favor. So what I've learned is to just basically not buckle - not be belligerent, not be angry, not throw fits, but just not buckle.

I want the tigard. (Varyk) And I want you to leave. Guess who’s going to win this argument? And in case you’re even denser than you appear, it’s not you. (Dev)

Model the qualities that you want your children to show to each other.

To freely bloom that is my definition of success. The question then is, How does arguing with our children advance our goal that our children freely bloom.

When you nag, you become the problem, he deals with it by turning you out, but when you don't nag, he deals with the problem.

my goal is to always come from a place of love ...but sometimes you just have to break it down for a motherfucker

When it comes to raising children, I believe in give and take. I give orders and they take 'em.

When you respond to an unreasonable person by getting emotional, you give them victory. How do you manage unreasonable people? You dismiss them. Like shadows

When people come at me they can't win, they think they can, but they can't. I'll just walk away.

I’ve always treated my children as beings in their own right. I respect their feelings and aspirations entirely.

She was also an adult, and when adults fight children, adults always win.

My parents always worked through their arguments and never went to bed angry. They may not have agreed with one another, but they didn't let that disagreement stop them from laying with one another in peace at night.

Very often in everyday life one sees that by losing one's temper with someone who has already lost his, one does not gain anything but only sets out upon the path of stupidity. He who has enough self-control to stand firm at the moment when the other person is in a temper, wins in the end. It is not he who has spoken a hundred words aloud who has won; it is he who has perhaps spoken only one word.

I'm polite. I guess that's the dichotomy within me. I don't like to piss people off just for the sake of pissing them off. I pick my battles.

We're raising children who have little tolerance for disappointment

To my way of thinking, the American family started to decline when parents began to communicate with their children.